Self-care

Marc Buelens and Ann Vermeiren wrote a book titled "Self-care" On the back cover she wrote:"How many people do not care for others?.But worry they also sufficient for himself? Self-care begins with self-knowledge. This requires standing still. Praise yourself and give yourself unconditionally the right to exist '

Self-care is often confused with selfishness, What is selfishness. If you look after yourself only then can you also cares for other concerns and you react not your misery down on the other.

In de Bijbel staat:'Love the neighbor as yourself!’. So it starts with you!. If you -often unknowingly- may not be yourself you will accept and appreciate you nor the other and projecting your own shortcomings on the other.

Once, when I was sitting behind a table on a psychic fair in Groenlo a woman came up to me telling me that she was ready for anyone and everyone helped but found out that if they themselves once attention needed there was no one for her. I asked her what she did for herself, and she was startled them to discover that they did absolutely nothing for himself!

There is a test where you measure how dominant, aloof and socially you're. This woman did not have to do the test, I did so well that they are on dominant and socially very high score and aloof very low. Her assignment was to discover her animus and integrate. If you put it in a graph you can see that there is a hole

D = Dominant(linkerlijn), A = Aloof(middle line) and S = Social(right line).

In the pit, the people throw their misery and problems and they are of those problems now and you sit with it. That is not self-care. You then allow being treated badly. I gave a pep talk to this woman and she said it was exactly what she needed to come to more self-care.

Buelens and Vermeiren made a striking remark she wrote:"If we do not value ourselves apart from our performance, we will not appreciate our performance, 'That's exactly right for me. I did not value myself and was never satisfied with my achievements. I had a work-a-holic and thought thus gaining the appreciation that I craved.

Lao-tse zei:"I need no rating because I myself already appreciate '. He provided his own needs and that iz self-care.

Buelens also written and Vermeiren:"Those poor will himself take it out on others'

An ex-boyfriend also responded with negative criticism and disparaging remarks and pedantic behavior he did not care properly for themselves. His meal often consisted of a carrot and he could not read himself. He spoke ill of others and saw his own evil does not, he projected that the other.

I let Buelens and Vermeiren just like to the word, the book is very worthwhile. They say:"Those who speak ill of others? Who need to bolster themselves by putting others down? Usually, those who neglect themselves in an important area, who do not take seriously their self-care "and also" Building good self-esteem is the most important thing we can do for our self-care.

I now have a spiritual self-esteem and take good care of myself, know what are my needs and come meet them. I feel no more but also no less than another, I feel connectedness that we are all an expression of God.

I realize that most people are not even aware that they are an expression, a manifestation of God and are ignorant and can be cruel because they are not aware.

If you are conscious, you know that you are love and compassion and that's what you give and also communicate to yourself and that is self-care.

Buelens and write Vermeiren:"Who will take care of themselves fast enough hostile, boos, unenjoyable and not a source of joy for others "and I add: for themselves, You can therefore not approve of yourself and not only.