Wat houdt je tegen?

Wat houdt je tegen? (What limits you throw yourself on?)

Think back to your childhood. you done any of these things?

-1-You asked a question in class and everyone laughed. It meant that you were very reluctant to ask questions, because you did not want the others you would find stupid. Even now, led you tend to avoid asking questions for fear of a negative response

-2-Your family was something dysfunctional when you were growing( developed and pull your codependent). Since then repeat those patterns. Freud called the "repetition compulsion".

-3-You were taught that request was a sign of weakness. As an adult you trying to do everything yourself(counterdependent), even though you can not touch it yourself

-4-You were brought up to believe that things would have been selfish for yourself. Giving is better than receiving taught you, you're not as able to receive, have resistance against.

-5-You said or did something that made people took you seriously. It could be a parent, teacher, classmate, if someone was in a store can zijn.Tot this day you are shy and reluctant to get attention and cooperation of others.

-6-You asked for something and you ashamed before. There you said:"How can you now ask?!'' Do not you see how hard we are?'' Do not be so selfish. "And now you feel jeschuldig if you want something for yourself

-7-You brought jezefl ever embarrassed and thought:"That makes me never happen again" Now keep your back still afraid to embarrass yourself again.

-8-You often got no response to your request. That left you with the expectation that you would get more no's, So you're reluctant not to ask anything.

-9-You were 'driven': o.a.om good to do your best in school, to excel in sports, or dance or play the piano. Your parents drove you up and let you rotate many events. as an adult, rarely ask for help and you also do not expect it, your role is the showman, the hero, the people pleaser(codependent), always looking for applause and praise.

-10-Your parents said things like:"When you're born a dime , you never get a penny "and" What will people there not thinking 'and' Just do then do you crazy enough '. This leads to codependency and thus i.a.. Low self-esteem. It strikes me that many people put their light under a bushel and not freely express their uniqueness and authenticity.

Unless you have a very rare, have had a unique upbringing you will recognize at least one of these things.

You were unconsciously programmed to feel like you do not deserve the things that can lead to scarcity in your life now.

You can reprogram yourself, by processing these events in a positive way and your self talk ', your inner dialogue positively rather than negatively to. It has everything to do with self-knowledge that you are a child of God, het universum, you all and love, attention, waardering, erkenning, respect, etc. deserve and are entitled to and that you must first give it to yourself often.

De 10 these points are in fact limits that you would create for yourself, so you can not fully live and can achieve interdependence. That inner boundaries are often difficult to observe, there is a lot of self-awareness and self-knowledge needed. We do see the speck in the eye of the other and not the beam in our own eye.