To come to true friendship with ourSelf, may we first become aware of, the often unconscious, enmity. We get to know things through their opposite. When I discovered that I was an enemy to myself I started to love myself. The Bible says not for nothing: “Love your enemies!”
Als je de vijand buiten je ziet denk dan maar aan de vijand in je die gespiegeld wordt in 90% van de gevallen. Vaak denk, voel en doe je codependent. Zie mijn boek ‘Anderenwaarde, over codependentie’.
Codependent as you are usually, without you being aware of, your enemy. M’n vriend Peter de Kock zei: "Codependency is at war with yourself ', your enemy and so he is not alone, many authors support him in that thought and vision. Laat die vijandschap los en kies voor vrede en harmonie en bewustheid!
Codependent if you think the opinion of others about you overly important, even more important than your own opinion of yourself, you do then everything to the mind, to control feelings and actions of the other person and what you are trying to control, check you and then you are again a victim of your own war. Laat de mening van anderen los: ze kennen zichzelf niet eens, en jou dus helemaal niet!
Your low self-esteem provide an inner critic who tells you that you are not okay, not good enough, no good, the love of others does not deserve, the other will reject at the time he or she will really know, you have to efface yourself to others,etc. Laat ook die innerlijke criticus los, stuur hem of haar met pensioen.
Wij kijken vaak naar de ander om onszelf te leren kennen, en kijken dus in de spiegel.
Here are some quotations from authors on your own enemy to follow his, the realization of which is more than half of the solution and healing and the restoration of peace and love in your heart and being and to interdependence.
“Our greatest enemies, the ones we must fight most often, are within.” – Thomas Paine, statesman
Mary J Blige: The enemy was me!!!
Rumi:"He who finds no flaws in himself is his greatest enemy
I was looking at my greatest enemy and when I looked in the mirror I saw him!
The enemy that you see from the outside is a mirror of yourself….
If you do not know yourself, you are your worst enemy and you are not aware of it.
“The only devils in this world, are those in our own hearts. That is what should be fought our battle.” – Mahatma Gandhi
The cartoon character Pogo said: ‘We have met the enemy and it is us’
The face of the enemy offends me because I can see how it looks like mine – Stanislaw Jerzy Lec
The wisdom of a man is his best friend, folly his worst enemy – William Temple
If you are a friend of yourself did you beat your worst enemy
The projecting enmity with yourself often on another
If no enemy is in your, an external enemy can not hurt – African proverb
It is the man's own mind, not the enemy or opponent, the allure him to do bad – Buddha
Thought Loos habitual behavior is the enemy of innovation – Rosabeth Moss Kanter
You're the worst, that ever happened – Vernon Howard
Your idealized self is the greatest enemy of your real me
We want the good, but do the poor – De Bijbel
Lord forgive them, for they know not what they do – Jesus
Chronically angry people are their own worst enemy – Peter Favaro
Dr.Cloud en Dr.Townsend: ‘We are our own worst enemies’
Verlaine Crawford wrote the book:’Ending the battle within’.
Chris de Burgh zingt over the battle between the head and the heart
If your heart is pure, your enemy is your friend, or even more, your teacher. Your worst enemies are your greatest teachers…, Wayne Dyer
Pat Benatar sings "Love is a battlefield ', she refers M.i. hence the conditional love that sings a Dutch singer on, she sings: if you all go for me, if you…as je..etc.etc. I'm yours, about conditional love talk….this is business and not love all is well named.
De Bijbel zegt: 'Love your enemies', there's a lot in, because they reflect on your weaknesses, your old pain and then you'll be aware of it and do something about it and transform and liberate you from old pain and conditioning. Dus ook de vijand in jezelf kan je grootste leraar worden als je hem omarmt en niet op anderen projecteert.
Tsultrim Allione says:"Everyone is fighting his own demons and wrote the book" Free your demons, about embracing your demons as part of your shadow side that can be transformed.
M’n vriend Peter de Kock zei:"Codependency is at war with yourself 'and I give him equal.
Aardig zijn naar jezelf houdt in dat je helder ziet in welke mate we onszelf kwetsen met meedogenloze zelfkritiek en dan een einde maken aan de innerlijke oorlog – Kristin Neff Ph.D.
Although all people pursuing happiness treat them in ignorance of their happiness as if it were their worst enemy – Shantideva.
Self Rejection is the lens through which we view all the other aspects of our self-image and so we ended up in a permanent struggle with ourselves – Jan Geurtz.
Freud was assumed that we are our own enemy
(Freud saw that man is at war with himself and often unable to tolerate too much reality, and he pronounced that dreams are the contraband representations of the beast within man which are smuggled into awareness during sleep.)
“ And the greatest enemy of the ego is of course the present moment, which means, life itself. ” – Eckhart Tolle.
‘War in my mind’ song van Beth Hart
Gerald Jampolsky writes: "Then it is quite understandable why the ego happiness, love and peace as its enemies look, because in such a state of mind we experience our spiritual essence '.
"Only forgiveness can give us what we want. And that's the reason that we ourselves must stop recycling anger, the pain, the bitterness and misery of both the inner and the outer war " – Gerald Jampolsky.
Zodra we bewust ons eigen aandeel leveren in de vorm van aandacht en intentie, laten we toe dat de gewaar-wordingen van pijn en ongemak hun vereiste loop nemen. Any other approach is a return to the hostile behavior of anesthesia and monitoring – Michael Brown in ‘Het Presence proces’.
Moraal:
Transformeer de vijandschap voor jezelf in vriendschap voor jeZelf, door je er bewust van te worden, door het onbewuste bewust te maken! Diep van binnen ben je Liefde, dat is je essentie, dus ook vriendschap met jeZelf en de ander.
Bron: Boek: quips (Friendship) – Henny Bos
