Wanting you right and wanting results
Many people would rather be right than happiness. When you talk to them, they prefer to be confirmed, they are so insecure of themselves! They allow themselves to be controlled by their urge for confirmation!
A friend joked about that and said: "You can say anything to me, but you will go furthest with flattery ”.
There was a counter with flattering lies and a counter with confrontational truth. All people stood before the counter of lies. Gurdjieff will be there too.
I read the book Caring enough to confront, it says that you only really love if you dare to confront the other person with truth and with his or her errors and illusions. Are you willing to enter into a possible conflict and lose control? Only then do you have compassion and love!
As a result we want to be right as a result, our benefit or confirmation. And so we can never make contact openly and problems arise.
“Between the banks of pain and pleasure,
stroomt de rivier van het leven.
Only when thinking and feeling beaches on one of the banks, and not going with the flow, creates misery. – Nisargadatta
As a result, we pursue our pleasure and our thoughts and feelings and thus strand on the banks of the river of life and so misery comes.
Amerikanen zeggen: “No pain, no gain”.
The most successful people in both spiritual and material areas, have had the most setbacks and failures. They did not get bitter, but got better!
I am not at all interested in my being right, but in my happiness. Happiness comes to the prepared mind!
I've noticed if you like what you do, and does what you love, the results present themselves. You are then in the “flow”. What Lao tse called "woe whei" either
do by not do….
Be like the bullseye, who does not care about a result either, but offers beauty and smells good, not to achieve anything, but because it is its nature.
Your nature is Love, even though you no longer know it and are alienated from it and now live under the control of fear. Follow your true nature and give and share love without worrying about the result, the cosmos will be good for you. If you want results from your love, it's business instead of love!
What you give and share comes back to you, je omgeving is de spiegel van jezelf!
If you want control and therefore talk a lot and listen little or not at all, you never come to in-depth communication. Everyone wants to be heard, but almost no one wants to listen.
Een cliënt praatte aan een stuk door, I hardly got a word in between, she "knew" everything so well and was sure of her case. Her son didn't want to talk to her anymore and it had to be up to him, for she was right (-). I advised her to sit next to her son saying she loves him and to keep silent and listen what her son would say to her. Also do not pull a questionable face, which would make her reject her son. She wanted to try it.
The wise Lao tse said: “Maybe I am the only muddler, because everyone is so sure of their case!”
Lao tse zei: “Be as soft as water, but also so strong that it hollows out the hardest rock ”.
Want control, you want right and want results, is what Nietzsche calls the will to power. And if you strive for power, you are now powerless!!
Bron: book Makes checking happy? Appears in the autumn 2020 Book published by Bent