I read now on the advice of my blog friend Peter de Kock's book 'Rising strong' by Brené Brown and read about self-esteem and find it so interesting that I want to share.
I translate it from English.
"Character is the willingness to accept responsibility for your own life and it is also the source from which self-respect springs' – Joan Didion
Brené schrijft: 'Self-justification is a huge threat to self-esteem'. She also says: "I see now that teach people how to treat us based on how they perceive how we treat ourselves'. That's the same thing I learned in management training which is that others and your surroundings are the mirror of yourself!!’
If we respect ourselves, it is usually the case that we have respect for the other. If the other person has no self-respect, he has usually not for us, accuse him or her not only have compassion, it's bad enough
As long as you uitverdedigt your flaws and mistakes comes at the expense of yourself. Rumi zei: "Who does not recognize his flaws is his own enemy" and so it is.
When self-esteem you feel no more nor less than the other, you have serenity and do not determine your value by praise or blame. The angel Cassiel is about serenity you can ask him for more serenity and that automatically leads to greater self-esteem and self-respect, success with it