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How do you let go

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How do you let go?:

Many problems can be solved by letting them go, also a Chinese wisdom is that many problems solve themselves if you no longer identify with them.

Here are some tips and recommendations on how to let go successfully.

-by realizing that what you experience in eternity, who you are, represents nothing
-by letting go of your control, everything you try to control, controls you and man proposes and God disposes
-by adding love and compassion to your life, if that still doesn't help, double the dose
-by practicing mindfulness, So to be completely in the here and now: observant, attentive and aware. An offer from Karma Kickstart for your reader, a good and effective mindfulness course now with 20 euro discount from 69 euro voor 49 euro pass on the following discount code when registering: Henny20Korting, success with it. You can google Karma Kickstart.
-by integrating your inner child
-by adding awareness
-by realizing that what annoys and irritates you, are aspects of yourself that you don't want to see yet
-by not expecting anything from anyone else, only from yourself. With the exception of demand-love
-by fully accepting yourself with your ups and downs and with your dark sides
-by not taking an insult or attack personally, it says more about the other
-realize that the biggest setback, the greatest misery lead to the most beautiful insights and discoveries: when your ego cries your soul smiles
-don't be led/suffered by the past. You can't change that, the way you look at it. Admit: it got you better, made wiser and stronger, so let go of the negative image and replace it with a grateful attitude.
-by respecting yourself and therefore also the other
-realize it doesn't have to be perfect: we are perfectly imperfect
-by paying more attention to your needs than to your desires, the wise Mencius already pointed this out to me
-by not taking big steps, but every day to take a small step, like they do in Kaizen, goethe be there too
-by accepting that you can get a no as an answer to your question, if you don't accept that you demand and that's not good.
-go with the flow and work with grace
-be grateful: every encounter and circumstance is to love or learn from, you are always a winner!
-realize that your environment is the mirror of yourself, so if you see the imperfection in the other, denk dan eerst aan je eigen onvolkomenheid. See my book The drama of being mirrored.
-don't rely too much on past achievements and successes, be open and be like a beginner.
-leave the good, your comfort zone, los, it is the greatest enemy of the great and magisterial
-replace negative- and positive thinking through right thinking, that assists you in further growth and development
-embrace and accept your so-called negative emotions, they are valuable messengers and unleash your aversion to and fight against negative emotions, then they transform into good. Nietzsche zei: "Anything That Doesn't Kill Me", makes me stronger
-don't be greedy but be generous, give of your being and let go of possessiveness
-don't take things too personally.
-realize that we are human beings and not human doings, don't lose yourself in doing: don't live to work, but work to live
-release guilt through the Ho'oponopono Mantra: I love you, Thank you, I’m sorry, Please forgive me..
-by letting go of what others say and think about you, by realizing that what Peter says about Paul, says more about Peter than about Paul, it takes one to know one!
-let go of anger and hatred and replace it with forgiveness. To hate someone is to take a deadly pill, hoping the other dies
-Amerikanen zeggen: ‘Don’t become bitter, become better.
-by doing the container exercise: you say aloud the feeling you want to let go and clap your hands hard and throw it violently into an imaginary container and send it to Our Lord. And you're off!
-by immersing yourself in Taoism
-by practicing Kaizen, always take small steps.
-by counting your blessings
-by realizing that a loss, something that you had to let go is often a liberation
-through self-reflection, take responsibility yourself and accept your negative side and not project it onto the other person
-by contacting an Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) coach/counselor, I'm a certified ACT coach/counselor
-by applying spiritual judo, example: if someone insults you move along and don't fight it, making it worse making it absurd and leaving the insulter timid
-by following the advice of wise and loving people and arriving at Self-realization…..if your dear reader email Henny20Discount to hennybos@xs4all you will get 20 euro discount on the first consultation of one hour, so instead of 60 pay you 30 euro.. on www.hennybos.com you can see my vision at Coaching+.

Bron: Boek: The challenge of letting go- Henny Bos

Focus

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If you 10 have things, of which there 1 is good and 9 are bad and you focus is focused on that one good and it will grow at the expense of the 9 bad please go away!

If you 10 things which have been 1slecht and 9 are good and your focus is on that one bad those other 9 be bad, so strongly does the bad and negative by

If you 10 gets compliments and 1 x thus the effect of the negative criticism will 10 compliments are nullified.

When I first bought a Ford Sierra struck me just how much of it there reason!!

When I first did my best to get in touch with angels, I noticed just how many messages they send!!

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The pessimist has his focus on seeing the difficulties of the options and will therefore encounter many difficulties and encounter

The optimist has its focus on seeing opportunities in difficulties and thus will find many opportunities.

A note from 50 euro was laid on the floor of a pub, First pessimists were invited to come to the cafe, none of them saw the note from 50 lie, when optimists were one by one admitted and they all saw the note from 50 and picked it up.

If your focus is on finding stones you will not see the diamonds!!

If your focus is one that you must first see and then you believe, you will never manifest what you believe, it is in fact first believe and then see…

You need not be a victim,nl!

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Onderzocht is dat de meeste mensen 95% van hun tijd aan drama besteden en 5% in essence, drama drama queens and kings and so we are unconscious victims of the rubbish we get in and who thus opens again.

Inspired by an article in English by Melody Beattie, I suppose you are a victim or victim feel very often an illusion and not your reality, it is a lie that you tell yourself, it's stupidity where Einstein also talks about

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Your self-image may consist of a feeling of not being able to life, do not have in hand and thus to be the victim of. Feelings of hopelessness and helplessness our subconscious programming, that causes your mind to victimization become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Your thoughts are clear and creative forces materialize

It can be such a habit to feel your victim even if you good things happen to you negative reaction, bijvoorbeeld:

-A new car and you say that he was too expensive and requires a lot of maintenance and consume a lot of gasoline

-You can and should do some shopping and you say that you are the spool that you should do that instead of a lucky and blessed

-A woman had a beautiful, spacious house and complained that it was a lot of work to keep it tidy and clean

-Attention seen as an intrusion in your privacy rather than as a form of love

-Building shelters in high winds, see the tile;

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We can all possibilities continue to see the difficulties and stuck in a negative energy

You then need Popeye moment, which is when Popeye has plenty of misery and spinach to its responsibilities and takes action. Whether it has to be worse, then we must first touch the ground to bring about change

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We must learn to fix our borders and to monitor, learning to say no to and dare to be angry to reinforce our words

We must learn to be more assertive, the aspects which are all already in our, only hidden from us, often we need a therapist or coach to get it up and make us aware of our true selves, change will be necessary, Darwin also says that:

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Claim responsibility for your life and happiness, Claim your power, Speak your needs and fulfill them, know what you want and do not want, no longer accept the unacceptable, let yourself be dominated by one, because that is not love, but an act of violence against you

Do not say you can not do it, because that you program yourself again. Ford zei: "Those who say they can not and they may be saying both equal!’

To feel a victim, many people will overcompensate and may be a 'noble' helper (which depends for its well-being of victims) or a prosecutor who lets define his thoughts and feelings by one who accuses him of what he denounces

Thus, both the prosecutor and the hellper also displace victim for selected. (see my book The Drama Triangle, in which the roles are described in detail).

Get away from the drama triangle and find the love triangle and develop your mastery. The true master is masterful student. I coach you like to mastery and art of living

To step you must be willing to change the victim, Shakespeare gods: "The readiness is all '

Buddha change

We are often afraid of change, the unknown, which alone could make it known to us anxious. The resistance is indeed the most painful and miserable because you thereby maintains the neurosis and rigid, star is then more dead than you are alive, a zombie, living dead

Where can a victim of its:

-narcisten

-cheaters and liars

-scammers

-indoctrination

-conditioning from your childhood

-dictatorial behavior

-backstabbers

-neuroten

-stress

-obsessive-compulsive behavior

-stuck in your head, niet voelen (You have to feel to heal!)

-victims

-neurotic helpers, help-a-holics

-prosecutors

-fundamentalists, fanatics

-bureaucrats

-etc.

summarizing: How do we free ourselves from the victim:

-by becoming aware that we are spiritual beings having a human experience rather than those with a spiritual experience

-that we are created in the image of God and therefore are gods

-by taking responsibility for your life and well-being and happiness

-by being assertive and set limits and monitor

-by giving less attention to drama and more essentials

-letting go of old patterns to make room for healthy new gedachyten and feelings

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Bron: Boek Verrijkende Inzichten – Henny Bos, verschijnt juni 2016 bij Uitgeverij Boekenbent (voorintekenprijs is 20 euro in plaats van 25 euro, dus 20% korting!)

Issues?

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There are two types of problems: The soluble and the insoluble. The soluble i solve the unsolvable and to lay me down as a lesson that is meant for me.

My motto is: "Every circumstance and every encounter is there to love and if that fails to learn. If you can stand so there are never problems in life.

A client were asked: "What would you be without your problems?’, the response was: 'Nothing', he had his problems, identified himself fully accept.

A client of mine said very nice that she did not mention her name when she somehow came in but they said: "That's the problem comes in again!’, From that image she ever wanted out and work toward mastery in which you are completely in charge of your problems

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Problem-Goal-Means analysis

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I have always benefited greatly from the Problem-Goal-Means analysis, when it came to business things, Below is an example form that you can copy on a large sheet of paper to gain a good insight into your problems and to gain an overview and to be able to make a summary and draw conclusions..