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Is aardig zijn codependentie?

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Is aardig zijn codependentie?

My answer is that it may be true when calculating behavior(I will come back there), but also can not be true when it comes from awareness and a good self-esteem and friends with yourself, So be nice instead of just doing.

If you feel connected to your fellow man, you kind to yourself and for the other without codependent.

There are also people who think differently. During a group meeting Anonymous codependents brought a woman with tasty cookies for everyone and proved to be a delicious cookie with coffee and tea. She was codependent conduct alleged…For me it's just being kind to others.

Also at Anonymous codependents was a woman holding a handkerchief handed to another woman who was crying this was labeled as codependent behavior, for me it's just compassionate, attentive, friendly and kind behavior..

How should we deal with nice people is sometimes a problem. We can if anyone suspect what he wants from us, what is rather suspicious. Not so long ago there were even commercials on TV about how to deal with friendly and nice people an omen that.

If you are nice with just the goal to want to be liked is to my mind calculating and manipulative behavior, and you're a codependent people pleaser. Then you're off to control the behavior of others because you feel dependent on his opinion about you and therefore have every interest to send it.

Another nice not need me to find, that's totally his case if he is willing. Besides, I'm not always nice and can be sometimes rude and insulting and have many facets. Elly find me sweet and kind because they themselves are. It takes one to know one. You can only acknowledge and recognize what you know yourself.

I once attended yoga classes with Christy, a friend of mine. She did everything with great care and was very kind to us and even so nice that she came to the end of the session in our sleeping bags cover, a very loving action of her that I will not forget. Now Christy leads a group counselors to be friendlier to humans, The counselors are required by their employer to follow the lessons of Christy, is as hard apparently needed.

If you're nice, you do not have to do then it comes naturally, it stems from your nature and essence. If you do kind you do not, but it is a good beginning, "Fake it till you make it" say Americans.

My experience is that there are always people who will react negatively to kind and friendly behavior, and do not know what they have to be lit thereby, this happens when love hurts and is not valued, that's their problem, I unsolicited not get me will interfere and my problem will

Daniel sings Lohues: Aordig do veur people who do not aordig, because they're the hardest neudig '. You've got a point. If someone responds to unkind kind of behavior you, do not be by that behavior facing down draw by also do unkind, stay yourself.

A waiter was very nice and kind to a grumpy, grumpy millionaire, which the waiter mistreated and even insulted. Despite all the waiter was nice and friend eijk and after a week the millionaire asked amazed how he still managed to do. The waiter said his character was now once A friendly and nice and that he was destroyed by none. The miljionair was so impressed that he had a job as a manager in one of its hotels and the waiter offered 5000 dollar gave tip.

” It's nice to be important, but it is more important to be nice” – unknown

A Haiku about his odd that I invented:

You're doing very nice

but are not yourself

so codependent

 

Some quotes about being nice:

A man gives himself a lot of misery by so much wanting to be liked. – Miep Diekmann

We find someone nice, because. We love someone, although. – Henry de Montherlant

” If you you're kind to yourself it for another, you treat others as you yourself and your inner child deals” – Henny Bos

core Quadrants

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Daniel Ofman invented the core quadrants, which are very sensible to emphasize the limitations and drawbacks of the excel anywhere. As every disadvantage has its advantage(I write more about) has every advantage and its disadvantage there go the core quadrants o.a. over.

I scored a psychological test far over the limit when it came to analytical skills. The psychologists thought there was a mistake and looked after all, knocking it proved, I was exceptionally analytical. This core quality I will elaborate in a core quadrant to give an example of how you can create your own core quadrant

 

core Quality: Analytisch vermogen

pitfall: in feeling his

Challenge: More come your feeling

Allergy: mush

The allergy is something you bother to, what repels and where you can get annoyed and then pass to the opposite behavior. My allergy is sentimentality that I call often emotional incontinence. The challenge may be entered and should not be exaggerated so you enter the allergy

It might be an idea to make your own core quadrants, it leads to more awareness

 

Finally, a Haiku about core quadrant:

See your core quadrant

The downside to your advantage

and become aware

Haiku

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Haiku is an ancient, Japanese poetry form. Christopher Weidner writes about:"A haiku moment is characterized by the presence of wabi sabi: it arouses desire. Wabi Sabi is more instinct than thought, More information about wabi sabi: see the topics at the top of my site. A haiku is in the first place meant to feel and not to think, all of which may of course.

A haiku has rules to know:

-a haiku consists of 3 phrases

-the first sentence 5 syllables, the second 7 and the third display 5

-a link is always made with the time of year and / or nature

-The haiku is written in the present tense

-there must be a special twist in perception, something that, notwithstanding the normal look, The special captures a moment

-The author is not involved in it(here is sometimes deviated)

 

A haiku of Nao-yo that make me like it is:

They pick falls heavily

and they can not reap heavy

small violets!

 

Here are some haiku that I myself thought:

 

the winter

The fire is kindled

it is warm

 

Choose one flower

why would you do that anyway?

Give to all flowers

 

Rush in the summer

hastier in winter

I had to stand still

 

Working at night

the heavens open

and always surprised again

 

Rainbow in May

lets see his true colors

What about me?

 

Let it still be quiet!

he broke the silence

and became silent

 

Do not immediately out,

what you can do tomorrow

Ass time than is counsel