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You need not be a victim,nl!

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Onderzocht is dat de meeste mensen 95% van hun tijd aan drama besteden en 5% in essence, drama drama queens and kings and so we are unconscious victims of the rubbish we get in and who thus opens again.

Inspired by an article in English by Melody Beattie, I suppose you are a victim or victim feel very often an illusion and not your reality, it is a lie that you tell yourself, it's stupidity where Einstein also talks about

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Your self-image may consist of a feeling of not being able to life, do not have in hand and thus to be the victim of. Feelings of hopelessness and helplessness our subconscious programming, that causes your mind to victimization become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Your thoughts are clear and creative forces materialize

It can be such a habit to feel your victim even if you good things happen to you negative reaction, bijvoorbeeld:

-A new car and you say that he was too expensive and requires a lot of maintenance and consume a lot of gasoline

-You can and should do some shopping and you say that you are the spool that you should do that instead of a lucky and blessed

-A woman had a beautiful, spacious house and complained that it was a lot of work to keep it tidy and clean

-Attention seen as an intrusion in your privacy rather than as a form of love

-Building shelters in high winds, see the tile;

tile wind

We can all possibilities continue to see the difficulties and stuck in a negative energy

You then need Popeye moment, which is when Popeye has plenty of misery and spinach to its responsibilities and takes action. Whether it has to be worse, then we must first touch the ground to bring about change

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We must learn to fix our borders and to monitor, learning to say no to and dare to be angry to reinforce our words

We must learn to be more assertive, the aspects which are all already in our, only hidden from us, often we need a therapist or coach to get it up and make us aware of our true selves, change will be necessary, Darwin also says that:

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Claim responsibility for your life and happiness, Claim your power, Speak your needs and fulfill them, know what you want and do not want, no longer accept the unacceptable, let yourself be dominated by one, because that is not love, but an act of violence against you

Do not say you can not do it, because that you program yourself again. Ford zei: "Those who say they can not and they may be saying both equal!’

To feel a victim, many people will overcompensate and may be a 'noble' helper (which depends for its well-being of victims) or a prosecutor who lets define his thoughts and feelings by one who accuses him of what he denounces

Thus, both the prosecutor and the hellper also displace victim for selected. (see my book The Drama Triangle, in which the roles are described in detail).

Get away from the drama triangle and find the love triangle and develop your mastery. The true master is masterful student. I coach you like to mastery and art of living

To step you must be willing to change the victim, Shakespeare gods: "The readiness is all '

Buddha change

We are often afraid of change, the unknown, which alone could make it known to us anxious. The resistance is indeed the most painful and miserable because you thereby maintains the neurosis and rigid, star is then more dead than you are alive, a zombie, living dead

Where can a victim of its:

-narcisten

-cheaters and liars

-scammers

-indoctrination

-conditioning from your childhood

-dictatorial behavior

-backstabbers

-neuroten

-stress

-obsessive-compulsive behavior

-stuck in your head, niet voelen (You have to feel to heal!)

-victims

-neurotic helpers, help-a-holics

-prosecutors

-fundamentalists, fanatics

-bureaucrats

-etc.

summarizing: How do we free ourselves from the victim:

-by becoming aware that we are spiritual beings having a human experience rather than those with a spiritual experience

-that we are created in the image of God and therefore are gods

-by taking responsibility for your life and well-being and happiness

-by being assertive and set limits and monitor

-by giving less attention to drama and more essentials

-letting go of old patterns to make room for healthy new gedachyten and feelings

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Bron: Boek Verrijkende Inzichten – Henny Bos, verschijnt juni 2016 bij Uitgeverij Boekenbent (voorintekenprijs is 20 euro in plaats van 25 euro, dus 20% korting!)

Codependentieschema + mijn speerpunten

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Codependentie:

-dependentie(verslavingen, gewoonten, ego, subpersonen, denken)

-codependentie(afhankelijkheid, verslavingen,anderenwaarde,controle)

-counterdependentie(subpersonen, rebel, non-conformist, solist)

-independentie(onafhankelijkheid, vrijheid, zelfstandigheid)

-intradependentie(subpersonen, dramadriehoek, Innerlijk kind)

-interdependentie(bewustwording, geluk & levenskunst, spiritualiteit)

Speerpunten:

-codependentie

-bewustwording

-subpersonen

-innerlijke kind

-geluk & levenskunst

-dramadriehoek

-verslavingen

-communicatie

-interdependentie

Contact:

0314 – 34 38 21

06- 10 42 16 46

hennybos@xs4all.nl

Book Drama Triangle’

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In april 2015 will be published by Akashic the revised version of my book "The Drama Triangle’ hatch and available in bookshops, the book will 22,50 going to cost and also to get the central book house, here the new cover:

New book 'The Drama Triangle’

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De dramadriehoek
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De dramadriehoek / Henny Bos

Henny Bos, came in 2007 During a study counseling specialization in contact with codependency and he recognized a lot in there. In 2012 he founded the codependency network on, now there are already 80 membership. Since 1 January 2013 Henny's codependency academy entered in the commercial register of the Chamber of Commerce.

One of the aspects of codependency participation in the drama triangle Karpman. There is nothing written in Dutch and that is unbelievable because we all sometimes play roles in the drama triangle, we all sometimes prosecutor, redder of slachtoffer, but often unconsciously, and then work very negatively by. This book leads to awareness and make you free from the triangle.

Henny has on the Internet about 350 pages of text found on the drama triangle and this study. He has also read many English books on the subject and experts consulted, together 2 years of study, an investment of 10,000 euros den you get now for just 25 euro. Henny has a few things added to his own findings and experiences. This book is a result of Henny's research. It is written with care and love, and he hopes that as well received.

2013 / 9789462033597 / Paperback / 276 pagina’s

Grenzen stellen

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If you decide to withdraw from the drama triangle you're going to ask you some personal boundaries and no longer accept the unacceptable. Healthy people will thus compliment you, but the participants in the drama triangle you'll encounter a lot of resistance, they will react negatively because they profited so fine you, they will feel attacked them and say : "What have I done wrong?'Or' You are so changed I do not know you back "or do pathetic and work on your mind to make you change your mind or they will go on the attack.

Do not be fooled and respect and guard your limits, they guarantee your freedom and well-being.

Nietzsche zei: "Nothing is taken you so much blame than the people need to change their perception towards you!’….

Many people will not be happy with the change, and you try to manipulate to make hey limits again fall. Your limits are there for your own health and safety and thus of great importance!

The prosecution often too high and impenetrable borders and beyond and violates the borders of others. The rescuer is often related to low limits and is easy to manipulate and control the victim. The victim does not even have a clue of borders and therefore is not to stop and let them therefore violate and violating them.

If we get in contact with other thoughts and feelings in the sense of: fault, shame, angst, pijn, fatigue, inferiority, smallness, etc, where we do not normally have these feelings, we can assume dart the other beyond our borders and violating and wants to draw us into the drama triangle, therefore wants to get down to his level, consciously or unconsciously, it does not matter.

Do not let it not shoot in the reaction but give a response of a peaceful, assertive heart. Never accept the unacceptable and point to the other on its responsibilities and present them accountable for their actions and words.

If you're dealing with a drama triangle player is you can be sure that he does not respect your boundaries and try to violate, so be wary and alert in this case and will not comment on allegations and accusations of the Prosecutor, pedantic behavior of the savior and complaining and doing pathetic victim.

Stand firm in your own essence and apply mental hygiene to. Dare to say no without feeling guilty and only "The Broken Record 'method to, repeat your statement without letting tempt statements or accountability, where else can capitalize on to get you to get.

Bron: Book The Drama Triangle’ Henny Bos (May 2013)