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Dialectical Behavioral Therapy

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DGT Dialectical Behavioral Therapy
Dialectic is the thesis antithesis and synthesis. It is the golden mean of the Buddha. The loving reconciliation of the opposites. 24 hours is the synthesis of day and night. Our dark side is also important. Jung said we are not enlightened by imagining luminaries, but by becoming aware of our dark side!

Precisely through the opposites we get to know things. I learned joy when I experienced deep sorrow. The synthesis was happiness / art
DGT is mainly used in borderline and autism but in my opinion it is more widely applicable and usable.

The focus in DGT is mainly on:
-mindfulness
-pain / sadness tolerance **, No pain, no gain
-emotional regulation / stress management
-interpersonal effectiveness

**The following poem by Nisargadatta illustrates this beautifully, here again the dialectic:
Between the banks of pain and pleasure, stroomt de rivier van het leven.
“Only when beaches think and feel 1 from the banks and not go with the flow, all misery arises ”.

Many people are stranded on the bank of pleasure, so there will be or there will be misery.
If you want fun, are you not having a good time and chances are that you are an enemy of yourself. DGT can also help here. In combination with CBT or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

I am also a certified DGT and CBT coach / counselor

DGT says we 3 have minds:
-1- Rational / logical mind
-2- Emotional mind
-3- In my opinion, wisdom mind is also Love mind. Where there is wisdom, there is also love and vice versa!

Abraxas is the synthesis of the thesis that is the Christian God and the devil, Abraxas takes in those two opposites. Op 16 I read about Abraxas in Hesse and confronted the pastor with it, he didn't want to hear about it.

Love is the thesis, fear is the antithesis and the synthesis is unconditional love, Divine Love.

The Yin / Yang symbol is also the reconciliation of the opposites 1 symbol, with the addition that the light is always a bit dark and in the dark always some light. Betty Ford did a lot of shadow work, I also learned a lot from it.

DGT is the therapy of acceptance and not judgment. My aphorism is: "Acceptance is the key to transformation". So I recognized a lot in the course.

Integrative- and eclectic coaching

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Integrative – and eclectic coaching
This approach is very characteristic of me. Bringing the client to his True self, taking into account his feelings, Emotions, thinking, beliefs, behaviors, experiences, handicaps, faith, spiritualiteit, lerend vermogen, etc.
Eclectic means that I get gold from many psychological and spiritual directions, attuned to the uniqueness of the client. The client learns to achieve spiritual wealth, expansion of consciousness, awareness and Self-knowledge / insight / awareness. The Delphi Oracle said it already: 'Know thyself'
Happiness is a by-product of awareness and Self-knowledge. And cannot be found outside of yourself, het is de weg naar binnen!….

An experience about my eclectic attitude is very funny: I got Jehovah's witnesses at the door, they imagine that they know and have THE Truth. I said to them: "You are like a flower!’. They started to beam at this compliment. Then I said: "I am an eclecticist, you know what that is?’. No they didn't know that, they only know the Bible. I explained that as an eclectic I pick my flowers from Christianity, jodendom, Buddhism, hindoeïsme, taoïsme, jainism, theosophy, psychology and philosophy, etc
Ik zei: "I do that which gives me a very nice bouquet, that is still getting bigger and more beautiful and now you want me to exchange that beautiful bouquet for that one flower of yours?!’
They did not get back from that, that too was not in the Bible, they then dropped off.

Windy Dryden's integrative and eclectic therapy is worth gaining insight.
The following model comes from that book and was translated by Leontine van Mourik

Advisory skills: an integrative framework A model for integrative counseling skills

The initial phase

Objectives
Building a working relationship Clarifying and defining problems Making an assessment Negotiating a contract

Strategies
Exploration / Introduction
Prioritize and focus
Communicate core values

Basic skills
Present
Observing clients Listening Reflective skills Investigative skills Being concrete

The middle phase

Objectives
Review issues again
Maintaining the working relationship Working on the contract

Strategies
Challenge through (giving):
Confrontation Feedback Feedback Guidelines Self-Disclosure Directness

Skills
Luisteren, reflective and investigative skills

The final phase

Objectives
Decisions / decisions regarding. changes Make changes Transfer knowledge End the counseling relationship Strategies
Set goals Plan of action Evaluate activities and support change Closure of treatment
Skills
Listening and challenging




Existential Therapy and Coaching

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Existential therapy and coaching:
This therapy was like a homecoming for me. The therapy not stick labels on your, Do not stop in a box, stelt geen diagnoses volgens de DSM Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of mental disorders, everybody, Getting a diagnosis, is treated according to the DSM in the same way as standard. I have a T-shirt with the text: ‘Don’t let people label you!’
Existential therapy does not do that and see you in the first place as a unique individual. Nietzsche one of my heroes, which I read on my 16th all books, said the belief is the greatest enemy of truth. And was one of the founders of existentialism. Sarte I read on my 16th and was also existentialist. The regular sector is very confident of its own as it is my experience. Onderzocht is dat 75% the professionals themselves superior eight.
In Existential therapy, one finds that there is often alienation from himself, the other, the world and God of the Universe. See further the dimensions of Binswanger!

The existential therapist and I also, will existential guilt, fear and crisis seen as something which tells about the values ​​of the clients, the extent to which they may or may not live up to those values

The existence precedes the essence, the central thesis. And is based on free will, self-determination, and Significance (see my book Meaningful Life!) with a focus on you as a unique person rather than the symptoms.
It assumes that the client potentially can address up and use and looks at the whole person so holistically.

Existential therapy focuses not only on the ground but also on beliefs, gedachten, feelings and perceptions that make up the background of your experiences.

I did very early in my life Existential therapy, without that I knew it was, due before the letter.

Bugental(existentialist) and Osho say that if an emotion displaces the detriment of all emotions. You are one 100% thinker, What is common in the western world.

Existential therapists like to work with the model of the Ludwig Binswanger 4 dimensions:
-1- environment: physical world, surroundings
-2- Mitwelt: social world, Caring
-3- Eigenwelt: psychological, personal world
-4-About world: spiritual world, universe

Existential therapists ensure that there is room for the client his personal thoughts, gevoelens, narrative approach, that these can be described and explained and understood.
Hazrat Inayat Khan zei: ‘Alles begrijpen, does love everything!’

Existential therapy when it is more about "How to Be 'than' what to do '. We are human beings, not human doings I often say. In Mindfulness they ask you to do according to His may go. The relationship coach-client is what heals if they are equivalent and collaborate. The implicit explicit, to investigate. I think it was Socrates who said that an unexamined life is not worth to be lived!

Each perception has a counterpart in the counter-perception. I'm counterpart me aware of my subpersonality example the production stag Gijs Gans, that produces nothing and just lazing. Between these extremes I move in balance. Fear of the death counter perceived fear of life! It's like day and night that make up a day as well as yin and yang.

Fear as a prelude
Who knows the right way to deal with anxiety also achieved the ultimate.

Fear is an essential condition to be authentic to be aware of your individuality.

Fear experiencing learn the counter-perception and that is love.

Fear makes you step out of your comfort zone and driven by the fear you go the transformative process.

It is important to take responsibility for your life as a director and the lead role to play in your own life. And accept the ups and downs and appreciate it as something to hold to, and if that fails to learn. So you're never more victim!

Wise counsel of Patanjali

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Who the council of elders in the wind hits is beyond help Groening said Brunno

Patanjali

Tips for happiness and life

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-What you see is what you get…

-Be thankful, if you are grateful you can not be unhappy

-Wil wat je hebt en bent ipv wat je niet hebt en niet bent

-Don’t die with the music still in you!!

-Integreer je Innerlijke kind dat je nu boycot,saboteert, etc. omdat het niet mee mag doen en dan word je ziek of hebt tegenslag en weet niet waarom dat is, therefore so!!

-Count your blessings

-Look at what it is rather than what is missing

-Afzien van expressie leidt tot depressie

-Smile more often also to yourself(See joke book in shop), veel lachen zorgt voor: meer weerstand, meer geluksgevoel en meer creativiteit

-See each encounter and circumstance as something to love, and if that fails to learn from then you are always winner!

-Think and work on your growth and development to a life of happiness and life(zie mijn boek ‘Geluk & Levenskunst’ in de winkel

-Rejoice often on things and then rest a blessing!!

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