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Acting nice as an alternative to being honest

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My experience is that most people do like to want to be liked, you could call a codependent draw. They are nice instead of honest. Friendship

I read the good book "Caring enough to confront". we give enough to the other to confront him with his destructive behavior with the risk of conflict?. we have to make over?. We have so much love that we want to protect that person for his own enmity?. Most do not. Friendship

I was talking with a neighbor Piet hated neighbor Jenny, who walked through the streets a few dozen meters from him, He smiled kindly at her and waved to her and between his lips, inaudible to her, He said, 'Hello cunt-wijf'.Dat is doing nice alternative to face it in a nutshell, and it is more common than you might think.

How dare we be honest?. I know people who told me that I have a very high awareness and am gifted and wise, it was flattery, because she claimed no interest in my "wisdom", asked me a single question, , demonstrating did not mean what they said. That's you kidding codependent what you say and do not say what you mean.
Many people who ask you the automatic pilot how you're doing, interests which do not fuck, they are too busy with themselves.

Often we do our best to make a good impression on others even if we have to be dishonest purpose. go of impression management to express management(zie m’n artikel daarover).
The codependent plays the mister nice guy, but he's not so nice, He tells himself that he was lucky to escape his unhappy and so lie itself and the other for with his nice behavior calculative. He is doing well but it is not. Do you just being nice or are you also that's the question.

M’n zus zei: "I love you" with an intonation that sounded rather ominous. Friendship, Friendship. A friend said to me '' Your sister is just pain, you're a masochist if you do it by going to call her sometimes not then you will see that they never call you more 'I regularly sat down with the phone in my hands but did not call, I waited, I wait all over now 10 year they never took the trouble to call me, no interest, I love you, she said, a strange kind of love that. Lao Tse said that fine words are often not true.

Bron: Friendship (Friendship)

If someone is not nice to you…

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You'll sometimes experience that someone is not nice to you, ignores you or breaks a call or make negative comments, Your sitting nagging, you berating, no sincere attention to you, etc.

Have compassion than because he or she reveals something of himself. You are namely often treats the other in the same way as in which you treat yourself.

Someone who is not kind to you is not kind to himself, etc., ask him or her if he or she can be happy and joyful, what he or she sees as positive in your

I was once arrived at my friend Elly and a woman to visit her I also knew, she walked straight past me and saluted just Elly, went a tedious misery story to Elly and looked not once did to me. I felt I did not bijhoorde and picked up a book and read "The time has come now to reach out," I was perplexed it were coincides exactly the same words that had said a holistic practitioner one day earlier against we!!!!. What a synchronicity!!. I thanked God and wanted to unkind woman also thank for her unkind behavior, I came upon this message I took to heart, I have not thanked her for it was not her intention to help me on the contrary, she ignored me completely

When you are happy you are also kind to the other and have attention to him or her because you feel connected and not separated, as one who gives no attention. The Dala Lama said that his religion is kindness, very nice

Patience a lovely old word that we have almost forgotten. Patience is: merciful, generous, patiently, tolerant, tolerant and friendly, a beautiful and good mix seems

Bron: Book "Enriching insights’ – Henny Bos, verschijnt juni 2016 Book published by Bent

Is aardig zijn codependentie?

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Is aardig zijn codependentie?

My answer is that it may be true when calculating behavior(I will come back there), but also can not be true when it comes from awareness and a good self-esteem and friends with yourself, So be nice instead of just doing.

If you feel connected to your fellow man, you kind to yourself and for the other without codependent.

There are also people who think differently. During a group meeting Anonymous codependents brought a woman with tasty cookies for everyone and proved to be a delicious cookie with coffee and tea. She was codependent conduct alleged…For me it's just being kind to others.

Also at Anonymous codependents was a woman holding a handkerchief handed to another woman who was crying this was labeled as codependent behavior, for me it's just compassionate, attentive, friendly and kind behavior..

How should we deal with nice people is sometimes a problem. We can if anyone suspect what he wants from us, what is rather suspicious. Not so long ago there were even commercials on TV about how to deal with friendly and nice people an omen that.

If you are nice with just the goal to want to be liked is to my mind calculating and manipulative behavior, and you're a codependent people pleaser. Then you're off to control the behavior of others because you feel dependent on his opinion about you and therefore have every interest to send it.

Another nice not need me to find, that's totally his case if he is willing. Besides, I'm not always nice and can be sometimes rude and insulting and have many facets. Elly find me sweet and kind because they themselves are. It takes one to know one. You can only acknowledge and recognize what you know yourself.

I once attended yoga classes with Christy, a friend of mine. She did everything with great care and was very kind to us and even so nice that she came to the end of the session in our sleeping bags cover, a very loving action of her that I will not forget. Now Christy leads a group counselors to be friendlier to humans, The counselors are required by their employer to follow the lessons of Christy, is as hard apparently needed.

If you're nice, you do not have to do then it comes naturally, it stems from your nature and essence. If you do kind you do not, but it is a good beginning, "Fake it till you make it" say Americans.

My experience is that there are always people who will react negatively to kind and friendly behavior, and do not know what they have to be lit thereby, this happens when love hurts and is not valued, that's their problem, I unsolicited not get me will interfere and my problem will

Daniel sings Lohues: Aordig do veur people who do not aordig, because they're the hardest neudig '. You've got a point. If someone responds to unkind kind of behavior you, do not be by that behavior facing down draw by also do unkind, stay yourself.

A waiter was very nice and kind to a grumpy, grumpy millionaire, which the waiter mistreated and even insulted. Despite all the waiter was nice and friend eijk and after a week the millionaire asked amazed how he still managed to do. The waiter said his character was now once A friendly and nice and that he was destroyed by none. The miljionair was so impressed that he had a job as a manager in one of its hotels and the waiter offered 5000 dollar gave tip.

” It's nice to be important, but it is more important to be nice” – unknown

A Haiku about his odd that I invented:

You're doing very nice

but are not yourself

so codependent

 

Some quotes about being nice:

A man gives himself a lot of misery by so much wanting to be liked. – Miep Diekmann

We find someone nice, because. We love someone, although. – Henry de Montherlant

” If you you're kind to yourself it for another, you treat others as you yourself and your inner child deals” – Henny Bos