Nothing human is strange you
If you accept yourself completely, with all your shadow sides, your negative aspects, are you whole and complete and are you everything and are you an artist of life. Knowing that nothing human is alien to you is liberating. You won't be offended so easily, because you know that everything can suit you.
We often tend to project onto others the aspects that we do not recognize and do not accept for ourselves. In fact, when we are codependent, we attract a partner who is unable or unwilling to give love and attention and in doing so, such a person mirrors the lovelessness we have towards ourselves and we don't want to see that so we give the partner's fault.
Also, certain comments will be a trigger to old, unprocessed pain, which has yet to be healed and transformed. It is very good to ask yourself what is the most terrible thing that people can say about you, you can bet that's a repressed shadow side of you that you don't want to acknowledge and accept….
The true wise and artist of life knows that he can also be foolish. Truth is usually paradoxical. Nietzsche said that very nicely when he said: “The wise are not expected to commit follies.”, which is a violation of human rights!’. I find that very beautiful and recognizable.
You have a devil in you, an enemy, which you are often not aware of and then he exercises power over you, you may take that enemy in and make it work for you instead of against you. Rumi zei: "He who recognizes no flaws in himself is his own enemy". Mary J. Blige zone: ‘The enemy is me!’.
Robert Burney writes about the whole person. He is writing: “This work is about becoming an integrated, heel, mature person in action in the sense of learning from life and responding(i.t.t. react) on living conditions and other people. The only way we can become whole is to take possession of all parts of ourselves, by acknowledging all our parts we can choose how we respond to life. By denial, hide, repressing parts of ourselves we are doomed to live a life in response'.
Many react to circumstances and others and thus allow themselves to be determined by them and are then a willful victim of it instead of responding from the core of your being which is love.
When we react it is often based on old experiences or expectations about the future and then we are not in the NOW, the only moment that really exists and so we don't live to the fullest, are we not an artist of life.
Giving a response is being in the Now, Osho was also very right to point this out and Eckhart Tolle too.
As long as parts of us, bossing our subpersonalities and ego we are not whole and not an artist of life, are we not congruent, hasn't the boss come home yet?….
Bron: Book 'Art of Living & geluk’ Henny Bos, the end 2012 begin 2013 opens