Je geliefd voelen

If codependent people pleaser I played roles, myself was not, m’n subpersoonlijkheden(intradependentie) were the boss of me. Shakespeare said that we all play a role on the stage of life. The problem is that if the other person loves us, he does not love who we really are, but we have to play, He has our role, we love mask, so we feel real self unloved and we feel.

There is no real intimacy that is necessary to really feel loved. There was a frank, requires honest communication about how you really are, but first you have to find out yourself by awareness, zelfkennis, self-understanding and self-awareness, and then you can really communicate and you really feel loved.

someone (onbewust) dislikes himself or has a very strong inner critic is you do not believe when you say you love him. Because he does not consider himself so how can he believe that you can love him, impossible.

Melody Beattie had het over de HOW-formule ofwel Honesty-Openess-Willingness, or honesty, openness and readiness. It was Shakespeare see said: "The readiness is all!’. Are you willing to see yourself as you really are in your vulnerability and your dark side and play nice weather and you're afraid of intimacy because the other you will be able to unmask?.

Eric Berne wrote the book "Games people play 'and that's exactly what we do all together, We play games with each other and are not fair. Gurdjieff also claimed that people are not honest and lie to themselves and are not open and you can never feel loved for who you are.

If your sub-personalities in charge of your play, as in my case was, You always another and never yourself. Acda and Munnick sing ervover they were never themselves. loesje says: 'Be yourself, because there are enough others'.

If you're friends with yourself and a good self-esteem, you realize the attention of another a form of love and you let it come and be thankful for and you feel your loved faster