Is aardig zijn codependentie?
Is aardig zijn codependentie?
My answer is that it may be true when calculating behavior(I will come back there), but also can not be true when it comes from awareness and a good self-esteem and friends with yourself, So be nice instead of just doing.
If you feel connected to your fellow man, you kind to yourself and for the other without codependent.
There are also people who think differently. During a group meeting Anonymous codependents brought a woman with tasty cookies for everyone and proved to be a delicious cookie with coffee and tea. She was codependent conduct alleged…For me it's just being kind to others.
Also at Anonymous codependents was a woman holding a handkerchief handed to another woman who was crying this was labeled as codependent behavior, for me it's just compassionate, attentive, friendly and kind behavior..
How should we deal with nice people is sometimes a problem. We can if anyone suspect what he wants from us, what is rather suspicious. Not so long ago there were even commercials on TV about how to deal with friendly and nice people an omen that.
If you are nice with just the goal to want to be liked is to my mind calculating and manipulative behavior, and you're a codependent people pleaser. Then you're off to control the behavior of others because you feel dependent on his opinion about you and therefore have every interest to send it.
Another nice not need me to find, that's totally his case if he is willing. Besides, I'm not always nice and can be sometimes rude and insulting and have many facets. Elly find me sweet and kind because they themselves are. It takes one to know one. You can only acknowledge and recognize what you know yourself.
I once attended yoga classes with Christy, a friend of mine. She did everything with great care and was very kind to us and even so nice that she came to the end of the session in our sleeping bags cover, a very loving action of her that I will not forget. Now Christy leads a group counselors to be friendlier to humans, The counselors are required by their employer to follow the lessons of Christy, is as hard apparently needed.
If you're nice, you do not have to do then it comes naturally, it stems from your nature and essence. If you do kind you do not, but it is a good beginning, "Fake it till you make it" say Americans.
My experience is that there are always people who will react negatively to kind and friendly behavior, and do not know what they have to be lit thereby, this happens when love hurts and is not valued, that's their problem, I unsolicited not get me will interfere and my problem will
Daniel sings Lohues: Aordig do veur people who do not aordig, because they're the hardest neudig '. You've got a point. If someone responds to unkind kind of behavior you, do not be by that behavior facing down draw by also do unkind, stay yourself.
A waiter was very nice and kind to a grumpy, grumpy millionaire, which the waiter mistreated and even insulted. Despite all the waiter was nice and friend eijk and after a week the millionaire asked amazed how he still managed to do. The waiter said his character was now once A friendly and nice and that he was destroyed by none. The miljionair was so impressed that he had a job as a manager in one of its hotels and the waiter offered 5000 dollar gave tip.
A Haiku about his odd that I invented:
You're doing very nice
but are not yourself
so codependent
Some quotes about being nice:
A man gives himself a lot of misery by so much wanting to be liked. – Miep Diekmann
We find someone nice, because. We love someone, although. – Henry de Montherlant
” If you you're kind to yourself it for another, you treat others as you yourself and your inner child deals” – Henny Bos