Hoe zal ik mij vandaag voelen?

A codependent joke is that of a codependent woman who wakes up next to her husband in the morning and asks him out: ‘Hoe zal ik mij vandaag voelen?’…

An example of interdependence and freedom is that of a man who went with a friend to buy a newspaper at a newsstand. The kiosk man acted very grumpy and grumpy and the man says hello and wishes him a nice day. The friend asks:’ Does that man from the kiosk always treat you like that??"Mostly yes," the man replies. "Then why are you so nice to him??the friend asks. The interdependent man says: "Because I don't let that man or anyone determine my mood and attitude"

How many of us let others determine our feelings and moods?. Only when the other person is friendly and kind are we too. It has been researched that when people are yelled at, most people yell back and when someone is angry at someone who returns evil to someone else, dus codependent..

Gurdjieff understood that principle very well. In Gurdjieff's training group there was a man who insulted and insulted everyone and was negative. One day that man decided to leave the group much to the relief of everyone except Gurdjieff, he did his best to get him back, the man didn't want that and then Gurdjieff even offered him money and then he came back to the dismay of the other students, who didn't understand it. Gurdjieff said:"If you can learn from anyone to be kind and loving in all circumstances, it is from this man."

The Dalai Lama knows this too and called the Chinese leader Mao, who invaded Tibet, his greatest teacher, the Dalai Lama was not embittered or enraged by Mao's behavior but remained kind and loving because that is his nature. He also says that his religion is loving kindness. And he walks his talk.

Bron: Boek ‘Levensinspiraties’ – Henny Bos (verschijnt najaar 2012)