Hoe win je het vertrouwen van je innerlijke kind?
-1-a- Allereerst is het belangrijk dat je je excuses aanbiedt voor het feit dat je je innerlijke kind zo lang hebt verwaarloosd en genegeerd, schrijf dat op met je dominante hand aan je innerlijke kind en vertel het dat je voor hem/haar zult zorgen en het lief zult hebben. Then answer on behalf of the inner child by writing what the child wants to say with your non-dominant hand..
-1-b- Express that you understand the distrust of your inner child and that it is shy and wary, say that you would have that feeling in his / her case and that from now on it will be different and better that you want to gain his / her trust, write that with your dominant hand and keep going until your inner child writes that it now trusts you again, and you always immerse yourself in the world of your inner child
-2- Make it clear that your inner child can ignore the harmful and burdensome rules of his / her parents and that you will make sure that the child is not punished or abandoned for what the child is afraid of, say that you are stronger than his / her parents and will take care of him / her and not abandon him / her..
-3- State what you have and that you are now independent, call your house, your car, bank account with debit card, credit card, money to buy candy and toys, that you can operate the TV yourself and have a radio and a computer, laptop, ipad, iphone, etc., that you can possibly take a pet, that you take responsibility for your own life, that you can do whatever you want. This will impress your inner child and build confidence.
-4- Indicate that you are connected to the Higher Power, your Higher Self, that you are safe and can count on divine blessing, help and support and that you put your inner child in that blessing etc.. let them share
-5- Tell your inner child that as a nurturing and loving parent you now want to look at history with him with accepting and loving eyes, that you see that everything served to bring you where you are now and that you have developed resilience through the difficulties and that you do not turn to resentment, but in gratitude, that you cannot change history, but the way you look at it…
-6- Tell your inner child that you will meet his needs and wants if it is good for growth and development, that you also learn that not everything is allowed and that you set limits. If your inner child wants to play, you give it space and you play. I play on singing bowls, indianentrommels, by kalimba, etc. and the child likes that. Painted again recently, that is also something of the inner child, so listen to what the child asks and says to you
Bron: Boek: "The Inner Child’ – Henny Bos (verschijnt medio 2016 Book published by Bent)