How I found out my codependency?

In 2007 I took a course from the Civas, namely counseling specialization. It had two lessons about codependency and when I learned those I saw codependency in pretty much everyone around me. I then wrote the book 'Being Mirrored' subtitled 'Your environment is the mirror of yourself' and realized that what I saw around me had been and still was, in a way, my own codependent behavior.. I started reading English books about codependency, in Dutch there was nothing to get about(unimaginable!).

I read over 100 books on codependency and related topics such as PRI and sub-personalities and discovered many shadow sides of myself that I had repressed and projected onto others, now I could take those projections back and acknowledge the shadow, healing and transforming and that is life's work that I do with great pleasure and sometimes some effort, it's very liberating.

I was the first to read 'Codependent no more' by Melody Beattie and read that her therapists had not understood her and that she had become her own therapist and that is how codependency came about, I didn't know that I knew that too and had also become my own therapist, I recognized a lot of what Beattie wrote and felt related and seen.

The more self-knowledge, the more you find out there is much more to discover. I made myself, through study and life experience, a codependency- expert. It is the biggest and most important discovery of my life so far, very liberating and I wish you that too.

Bron: An Introduction to Codependency’ Henny Bos.