How do you give love to yourself?
How do you give love to yourself?
This question is increasingly being asked to me by people I have the impression that they fear- and / or have anger motivation. People who fear no respect, erkenning, waardering, attention and love from others and get them to get themselves so dependent and make it out and so codependent thinking, feel and act.
Frank wrote the Ancients: "If you as a child is not enough love and commitment have experienced between your father and mother, the chances are that you do not love yourself as an adult
Recognizing and releasing yourself and your codependency is a first step in the right direction. Reading my book "Other Value, about codependency "and listening to the CD with an interview with me about codependency, Yvonne Polman of ParaVisie can help. I also have more CDs with lectures on codependency, living and awareness and a DVD 6 short films with lectures on codependency
Fight your fear and anger, or want to keep the forced control, does not help and counterproductive and reinforces the fear and anger only. You should not fight against the dark, maar het licht aandoen. The Bible says that love fear (and thus anger) extruding.
Please also encourage your inner dialogue, is 'SelfTalk'. What do you say to yourself?. If that is not loving, correct it and does not degrade yourself. Ingeborg Bosch calls "primary defense" that you yourself silly, yourself to, niet goed genoeg, not okay, etc. finds.
That is the inner critic that we build in our youth because of the 10 messages that were given to me as a child there 9 were negative and that we drag with us.
Seeing that there is more love for you than you see now contributes to solving. Recognize that any attention you often get is a form of love and it stirs love in yourself. Louis Armstrong sings beautifully in his song 'Wonderful world'. If people say to you:’Hoe gaat het’, they actually mean:'I love you', and that feeling and let come in.
Self-knowledge and self-understanding are the keys to your essence, your essential core is love. You often need some help there at, because we do see the speck in the eye of the other, but not the beam in our own eye, as the Bible rightly says.
Be good to yourself in many ways. recognize and fulfill your needs you can do to a large extent self. However, many of us are in a defense of old pain Ingeborg Bosch calls 'Denial of needs'. We are so disappointed that we assume that our needs are not important and can not and need not be fulfilled. An erroneous idea and a loveless vision, where you have to get rid of.
Pamper yourself with a pastry, a fish market, a cup of tea or coffee and enjoy it on the way mindfulness, so with thoughtfulness, extra attention and appreciation and awareness and love and it will be increasingly.
Also pretend helps, pretend you feel a lot of love in you and give it to others creates more love in yourself. Call that friend you have neglected, mail or write a card to the person who likes you and let that marks. How else can feel your love when you give no express?. Give and give you will receive much, but do not, as does the codependent, at the cost of yourself.
Laat de controle the, in the surrender and most creams, cooperating with grace, is the biggest win. Codependency and maintain control of your true, unconditional love off, it is investing more, namely to give to get, and that's not give that business.
Do not be a 'people pleaser' to control people. Do not just nice but be nice, Be real and authentic and interdependent.
As a child you learned to lie and nice to do because that behavior was rewarded and were punished when you were angry or in any other way yourself was.
An attitude of gratitude for all that there is, leads to more happiness and love. Let your prayer be a prayer of thanksgiving for all the blessings you receive, but if it turns, because you could then just do it once needed for development, no pain no gain, say Americans.
There is a Cherokee story which says an Indian against his chief:"In me, I have a wolf evil wolf and the good, welke wolf zal er winnen?!'The chief answers:"The wolf that you feed!’
so give power to love everything in your, all acts, thoughts and feelings of kindness, vrede, harmonie, sereniteit, humor, etc.
Wiser and you become more loving. Wisdom and love go hand in hand. With daily attention to your growth and development, you become wiser and more loving and interdependent. Socrates zei:"Improve yourself by reading the writings of others and you get easily where others have much trouble to do, m.i. wise advice. He board of ways beats the wind is beyond help(-)
If you prefer working in a group is a Spiegelogie fanclub recommended and also a discussion group Attitudinal healing or other self-help group, where people respect each other and support and encourage.
If you once again wondering what you should do now again, ask yourself what would make love or , if you want, would do what Jesus.