The consequences of codependency

Codependency tends to become stronger and to increase when there is nothing to do, The consequences are dramatic. You are then at the mercy of others that lets you decide how you feel and what you do, You then have another value and alienate you from your true self.

You play constantly to the needs of others with disregard for your own needs and then gives feelings of discontent, anger and victimization, you feel powerless and sacrifice yourself for others, You are a martyr.

Consequences are loss of your Self, your self-esteem, you have become an extension of the other and himself so nothing. You feel helpless and that creates anger that you dare not express for fear of the reaction of the other. That pent-up anger can lead to depression and you have yourself no idea what the cause of your depression is so poor your self-knowledge and self-understanding.

You feel lived and hunted by others and circumstances and that makes weather stress, the main cause of many diseases, because your resistance increases dramatically down. an ulcer, heart problems, migraine, etc. may be the result.

Because you feel powerless and have no self-esteem often do not have the courage to change your circumstances and denotes clamp. There is a blockade on change, a fear of losing the familiar, even though it hurts you know so much, you think you can do anything.

The consequences of codependency are also a growing loss of self-esteem, it can even be self-contempt without that we have in mind because we play good weather and keep fooling ourselves and others that there kicking.

The codependent is so on the other directed that there is no question of self-reflection. There is an external locus of control that keeps to itself to take responsibility for your life and your happiness.

Codependent as you think you can make the other person happy. The book by Robin Norwood called translated into Dutch "If he is fortunate," and that says it all. That does not, of course, makes you lose faith in yourself, you lose your confidence and feel powerless and resentful and seek power and control because you do not think about yourself have.