Yin en Yang

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Yin en Yang

Which aspect controls your life Yin or Yang, female or male, or intuition or action, anima of animus, feeling or thinking?

Carl Gustav Jung coined the anima, or the feminine qualities in the man, and the animus or male qualities in women.

The Western world is still a male controlled world. Women are paid much less for the same work. Moreover, one tends to feel it, that is feminine, to neglect, one allows oneself to be controlled by male thinking!

Yin is the black part in the YinYang symbol with a white dot. 24 hours also consists of a night, the black part and the day. The black part, we prefer to push our shadow side to our subconscious, where it controls us properly. Moreover, we project our shadow sides onto the other!

The trick now is to integrate and embrace both aspects! What aspects these are follows below:

masculine qualities / animus:

For both men and women is that these qualities you flip. Jung called the masculine qualities in the woman's animus. Today, however, many men become so feminine that they may return to their masculine qualities.

-rational / intellectual

-effectiveness

-solution-oriented

-competitiedrang

-sure of his case

-protector

-goal oriented

-takes risks

-vigor

-strong

-tendency to brag

-focus

-is possible 1 thing at once

-autonomy

-sets and guards its limits

-confronts

-vrijheid

-planner, a man without a plan is not a man

-tactical / strategic

-sets the return requirement

-hidden agenda

-hierarchical

-authoritarian

-paternal

-actie

-wants to decide for himself without consultation

-anima integrated

-can be like a child, playful

-patriarch

-can deal with rejection

Feminine qualities / anima:

For men, they can also integrate feminine qualities, who then mirror them. Jung called this the anima. When you have integrated the anima you are complete.

Many women have become so masculine, that they may return to their feminine qualities, that are going to mirror them……

-empathy

-emotions / feeling

-talk a lot about

-share together

-make connections

-can more than 1 thing at once

-uncertainty

-harmony and peace

-durability

-divided attention

-dramaqueen

-take care of / to

-loving

-be charming

-be seductive

-animus integrated

-identify dangers

-aanpassen

-acts subordinate but often checks

-wants people to listen instead of hear solutions

-tendency to gossip / talk about the other rather than with the other

-harmonie

-love for yourself and others

-maternal instinct

-intuition

-mother

-difficulty with rejection

When we combine the feminine intuition and the masculine action, creates creativity and innovation, that which distinguishes us from the computer and the robot.

As an extension of the masculine and feminine, there is also your inner child. This aspect is often forgotten and is essential in your life. Here are the properties of the inner child:

The qualities of the Inner Child:

The Inner Child is rather idealized by some of us, but it is not only positive qualities that the child has, the child can also be aggressive and furious and demanding etc..

First of all, the characteristics of the Inner Child, that are positive and that you can make your own again and keep alive. These are the traits of the healthy and creative child:

-eager to learn, lerende capaciteit

-enthusiastic(and teos means God in you, the child has)

-vergevingsgezind

-laughs a lot, vreugde, joy

-spontaneous

-creative

-adventurous

-vulnerable

-sensitive

-impressionable

-vergevingsgezind

-vertrouwen

-sociaal

-loving

-fair

-energetic

-playful

-energetic

-forward-looking

-demands a lot, investigates

-imitating

-imagination, fantasy

-wonder

-expectant

-flexible

-not afraid of change

-ondernemend

-receptive

-open and forthright

-vertrouwen

-naive

-naughty

-guilt and shame

-in the here and now, is absorbed in his game

Characteristics of the Inner Child that you must recognize and thereby control and moderate in their practice, be aware otherwise they will rule over you. These are the traits of the injured child, that is under the control of the inner critic:

-egocentric

-impatient

-claiming

-want too much

-ontevreden, ungrateful

-rebels of te volgzaam

-no responsibility

-manipulatief

-codependent

-dependent

-needy

-lie

-ignorant

-aggressive

-fearful

-low self-esteem or boasting

-neurotisch

-narcissistic

-cries to get his way

-traumatized

-drift buien

-manipulate through anger etc..

-blaming others

-don't want change

-feels inadequate

All in all, they are more positive than negative traits and that is necessary, because the negative lingers longer, It is stated that for every negative message we receive 20 need positive messages to neutralize the effect

When we grow up, we often forget the inner child and get serious. The child smiles a lot more and is happier and more spontaneous, especially integrate those properties..

In the Transactional Analysis one knows Parent-Adult and Child. During the coaching of approx 1.500 people, I noticed that the child is often separated. So it is important to get your inner child out of the basement again, where we've locked it up so as not to be hurt anymore, and to love the child as a loving parent.

All these aspects make you a complete person. Then as a woman you are no longer dependent on the man and vice versa. If the other has to make you happy, you act dependent and you saddle up your partner with an impossible task.

You can't make someone else happy. Happiness is a by-product of awareness, that you have everything in you, even God and the universe. Become aware that you are part of the hologram, in which there is a reflection of the whole.

Taoist farmer

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De Taoïstische boer

There was once a poor peasant, He had only one son and an old horse.

One day the old horse runs away, and his neighbors come to pay their respects: "What horrible you were already so poor and now your horse is still way '

To the surprise of the neighbors says the farmer: ‘Het zal goed zijn’.

A week later returns the old horse with a large herd of wild horses. The neighbors come to congratulate the farmer now that he is a rich man.

To the amazement of the neighbors says the farmer again: ‘Het zal goed zijn’

De zoon gaat op een wild paard zitten, en wordt afgeworpen en breekt zijn been.

The neighbors come to pay their respects and hate it.

To the dismay of the neighbors says the farmer again: ‘Het zal goed zijn’.

The war breaks out, the son does not need to fight, because of his broken leg.

The neighbors are farmers congratulate again. And the farmer says again: ‘Het zal goed zijn!’.

The farmer lived states as certainly one of the four sublime, namely 'Upekkha'. Either equanimity and serenity. He accepts life full of ups and downs and let his mood not determined by, as the neighbors are doing.

Taoist farmer remained in its value rather than letting determined by his feelings and thoughts, which are like clouds in the sky of your values. Thoughts and feelings are usually very hit. one moment think and / or feel the opposite of the other time.

Be like the Taoist farmer and come out of your values. In my case that: giving love, parts and able to receive, respect, compassie, observe rather than judge, to name a few…

Denken

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Co creation

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Co creation

If you let go of control and arguing with things and people, You can reach gratitude and appreciation and that is respect and acceptance and feel the connection to everyone and everything. Then the universe will bless you, help and support. Then miracles can happen and you come to co-creation. You then enter the FLOW, and things seem to go without saying, What do Lao Tse said by not doing: wu wei!

In our desire for control, we create an image anywhere on how it should be, in our opinion, and that rigid image we hold.

Nietzsche zei: "Nothing is taken you so much displeased, then one must change its image towards you. The Bible already warns: ‘Maak van Mij geen beeld!"And we do not otherwise!

Schopenhauer zei tragicomic: ‘Eeuw na eeuw hebben de wijzen altijd hetzelfde gezegd, en eeuw na eeuw hebben de mensen altijd hetzelfde, namely, the opposite is done. Not for nothing that Jesus said on the cross: "Lord forgive them, for they know not what they do '.

The problem is that the less people know, the more they think they know and firmer is their opinion and views, where the more developed human being much more cautious in giving its opinion.

Most people co-create unconsciously controlled by their dark side, met alle ellende van dien. The intentions are usually good, maar de weg naar de hel is geplaveid met goede bedoelingen.

In my book How's read what people say about their lives: 'Nothing special', 'I can not complain'. 'His way'. Altogether no reason to hang out the flag, hence the desire for distraction and entertainment to escape from their misery!

They co-create with the pharmaceutical industry a slavery: 11 million Dutch take pills! 80% of Twente students has ever suffered from depression or anxiety. The number of people seeking solace in alcohol is also quite large, given the range of beers and wines in supermarkets.

If you wake up and are co-creating with the spiritual world you have all these distractions and addictions no longer needed, then feel gratitude, voldoening, love, vreugde, compound in place of separation, harmonie, vrede, respect, etc. Then let go of control and work with grace, and you will be blessed. Then you look forward you every day and then rest a blessing!

Tell you about the life and the magisterial is phenomenal and fascinating! That I grant you too, hence this story!

Bron: Book 'Makes Checking happy' – Henny Bos, appears over 2020, with advance registration 15% korting

Self and attention

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Attention shapes the self and is, in turn shaped by it.

Bron: Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihaly

Attention in the sense of mindfulness and attention creates the self and the self in turn creates the attention: that what you watch, What is your focus.

If your emphasis on love, you will notice a lot of love and that molds you into a loving being/self.

You are and become what you perceive, what you pay attention to, what has your attention and interest!

A rational person pays particular attention to his thinking, facts, numbers and statistics and that shapes and reinforces its rationality!

A person is thus controlled by his points of attention and also by his self, the two form a symbiotic relationship and thus are mutually dependent on each other.