Are you the bobbin!?

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In the parking lot of ah, I just come for grocery shopping a former colleague against whom he had to do errands greeted with the words: "Are you the bobbin!?’, surprised I said: ‘Nee, I feel blessed that I can and can not do, but I screwed, you obviously do’

It reminded me of a walk with a friend by Leon Doetinchem. Leon said: "Henny look at those people: beautiful polished shoes, beautiful clothes and bags full of groceries and now look at their faces!’. There indeed knocked out of nothing, they all seemed to have the feeling of being screwed and nothing to do there it is amazing

Wise and stupid people

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Wise people learn a lot of stupid people (especially how not to) and the stupid learns nothing of the way, because he projects his own stupidity on the way. Schopenhauer zei: ‘Je toont je intelligentie door met dwazen, idiots and folly-fallen joitheads nothing to do wanting to have '. Me what is going too far you can with the category of people who he calls namely to laugh and have fun and that is worth something

Nietzsche zei: "From way people one does not expect them to commit stupidities, which is a violation of human rights!!’

Wijzen en dwazen

The big joke is that almost everyone will find themselves wise, 80% of the Dutch say they have above-average intelligence. Many New Agers talk about a higher consciousness rather than an extended proof, they think in terms of higher and lower, better and worse and that's egodenken and limited awareness

De verschillende stadia van bewustzijn verhouden zich tot elkaar als de spaken van een wiel niks is hoger of lager, you can only cover more spokes in your consciousness you broaden the. Inayat Khan wrote beautifully about.

De wijze leert van alles en iedereen, de gemiddelde mens leert door schade en schande en de domme mens hoeft niks meer te leren want die ‘weet’ alles al.

self-respect

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I read now on the advice of my blog friend Peter de Kock's book 'Rising strong' by Brené Brown and read about self-esteem and find it so interesting that I want to share.

I translate it from English.

"Character is the willingness to accept responsibility for your own life and it is also the source from which self-respect springs' – Joan Didion

Brené schrijft: 'Self-justification is a huge threat to self-esteem'. She also says: "I see now that teach people how to treat us based on how they perceive how we treat ourselves'. That's the same thing I learned in management training which is that others and your surroundings are the mirror of yourself!!’

If we respect ourselves, it is usually the case that we have respect for the other. If the other person has no self-respect, he has usually not for us, accuse him or her not only have compassion, it's bad enough

As long as you uitverdedigt your flaws and mistakes comes at the expense of yourself. Rumi zei: "Who does not recognize his flaws is his own enemy" and so it is.

When self-esteem you feel no more nor less than the other, you have serenity and do not determine your value by praise or blame. The angel Cassiel is about serenity you can ask him for more serenity and that automatically leads to greater self-esteem and self-respect, success with it

What goes for the food

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I had a man on the phone, I will call him Charles, who complained about the fact that a conversation formerly home always had to be interrupted for food, there he was terribly annoyed at. He praised his father, when Charles was talking to him said the father to his wife that the food could be a wait that they now had a fine conversation. Charles said he now knew how and when it happened the reenactment, the repetition compulsion as Freud called it, He told me that he had to stop now because our conversation came his wife with food(!!!). Where he embarks annoyed and disliked he did himself again, He knew the so-called, so no.

The false and misleading tricks narcissists,nl

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As a former codependent I thought especially to the needs of others and narcissists them off because they think only of their own needs, Here are some experiences I had with narcissists, was an American 10 Tips towards dealing with narcissists, The first tip was: ‘No contact!’, the second 'No contact' and it went on until the tenth. Narcissists are so complacent that they all think they know better and therefore will never change and will recognize their flaws.

Almost everyone comes sometimes to a narcissist in his life, but not everyone has realized that it is a narcissist packing them with a charm offensive and then cheats, misleads and deceives. Here are some experiences with narcissists. Narcissists are victims of their illusions o.a their megalomania, a narcissist said he had ended his force to mad cow disease…

Narcissists claim that you said something or done while it is not so, Americans call it gaslighting. They claim you crazy, judgment, onbewust, etc. are and they will be able and will help

In a relationship operates the narcissist you and your trades with ease for a better partner or friend, a follower prefers..

They claim healings and miracles, healings and talk as long and convincing you that you begin to believe it yourself. said a narcissist: "I've never encountered such a gifted person like I am!!’.

They pick you up from the blood under the nails and then they accuse you that you are fierce and angry and you

They project their own shortcomings to you and say that you can not take criticism when they just can not stop themselves.

They undermine your self-confidence by praising one hand and then back to tackle, You blame everything tegeven

They play games with you include the game that Eric Berne in his book "Games People Play" "Look-Once-The-Good-I-Am calls

Everything you say will be used against you against them

They do everything to dominate you and check and call it love

They say that you've become so good with them or heal, they are charlatans

They distrust anyone because they do not trust themselves, they are liars and who think that everybody lies

They do nothing for you and blame you than you do nothing for them!

If you need help they give home or let you wait and pay

A woman called a friend of her narcissist stating that the narcissist in a conversation with her much had loosened and she would like to talk about this, The narcissist then said: "Then you wait three months and then you can pay for my consultation '

I recommended a narcissist to take a session with a numerologist, he came back and had turned the tables he had the numerologist given session and asked for money

They judge you unfairly, say o.a a meat eater can not be balanced when they are vegetarian themselves. Or that you will never be enlightened if you eat sauerkraut, and more of that nonsense

Sokkelen you with false compliments to get you back and then as they try to break down your self-confidence

They try to make you dependent on them to verify your, you must do what they say and have no own opinion

Narcissists make his victims and victims victims

They manipulate your own benefit

They talk behind your back about your appearance, it is slander and libel, a song about the backstabbers that narcissists also

They say they have felt your pain and illness and can be payed what to do

If you do not believe them, are not going to agree and does not follow you stupid and they try to put a heel, a narcissist gave a friend a lose-lose option for taxation

They try windward to stabbing and claim that they are more developed than you are and that they are only light and love, where you are a sinner, it's all lies

They show no interest in you, have no compassion, no empathy and accuse you that you are not interested and they do not idolized

They want to be constantly incensed if you do not participate, they drop you like a rock and try to hurt you and destroy

They say that you can not understand that it goes above your cap, you must first join them in learning, In this way they try to attack your self-esteem

They blame you for everything and know yourself no guilt or shame, it throughout his brutal people

They try to brainwash and everything to point to and say that you need them and can not live without them, they control and dominate and call it love

The narcissist is addicted to drama and often plays the prosecutor or the helper in the drama triangle, he says to know better what is good for you and how he can help you

In dealing with a narcissist undermine your confidence and you become known as a toddler, you merit only thanks to him he claims they

The narcissist meaningful contacts with others are blacken to make you so just depend on them, He causes you to drop friends because he has gedominiseerd your friends, under the pretext that the narcissist knows what is good for you

For the narcissist could apply the following joke: "For you I climb the highest mountains, I walk through the largest deserts and dive into the deepest oceans, Friday I come to you as it does not rain!’

They'd violate your limits and show no resoect, if you object that they exceed they say you should not be so childish doing your limits and be able to counter a 'joke'

They talk to you mouth and behind your back negative comments, they occur to your friends as the jovial, cordial and friendly person

Narcisten zijn slachtoffers die denken dat ze meester zijn…

Narcissists are so dangerous people, they catch you with their charm offensive and then let none of you really, The American has equal the best in dealing with a narcissist: ‘NO CONTACT!!!’