Drama driehoek

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De dramadriehoek komt veel voor in codependentie en dan spelen we afwisselend de rollen van redder/helper en dan aanklager/vervolger en slachtoffer Ik heb daar zelf ook een ervaring mee opgedaan en lees daarover voor op de volgende geluidsopname van ca. 5 minutes, It is tragicomic

Karpman Drama Triangle (drama triangle,,af,The drama triangle is common in codependency and then we play alternating roles of savior / helper and then prosecutor / persecutor and victim that I also have experience with it and read about it for the next recording of ca,,nl,source,,nl,CD reading about codependency Henny Bos,,nl,savior Archives,,nl)

bron: CD lezing over codependentie Henny Bos

De paranormale ‘meester’

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I met Wim ever a man, I'll call him Jacob, who called himself a psychic and master Wim guided and told him what to think, feeling and doing. Everything you could tell he felt superior to Wim and I took it as pathological. I then told Jacob that he Wim a lot could learn about sensitivity.

Horrified Jacob pulled his nose, he learn from Wim that was for him unthinkable and impossible. Jacob was very angular, its voice was staccato and hard and its body language betrayed rigidity. His eyes were very compelling and tight just like the picture on this story. Then Jacob said:"You're a part of me '. I then said,:"I did not know you were God, for I am indeed a part of God, of the whole '.

Jacob was not accustomed to contradiction and laughed nervously. He was used to the shots and that people do what he says and follow zn opinion. He was also very dominant. Not that that bothered me but it indicates insecurity and low self-esteem which is overcompensated.

I later learned from Wim that he had molested young girls during a therapy session and now was serving a sentence in jail, perhaps these false master will there be sober. There are more lunatics loose then stuck.

 

Droom 22-12-2011

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Ik droomde 22-12-2011 over een collega die ik Karel zal noemen. Karel had het over echtheid, authenticiteit en ik zei toen:’Dat moet jij nodig zeggen met je zonnebril en helm op, je verstopt je, schermt je af’. Ik deed z’n zonnebril en helm af en vroeg hem of hij me aan wilde kijken, dat durfde hij niet. Toen pakte ik z’n hoofd in m’n handen en draaide dat naar mijn gezicht toe en toen verdwenen z’n ogen. Op de plek waar z’n ogen hadden gezeten trok de huid samen en ontstonden en er soort navels(Moet ik niet zoveel navelstaren?). Met een zonnebril en helm op heb je een beschermende houding en dan kun je niet leren en openstaan en is er geen echte communicatie mogelijk en dat gaf me een machteloos gevoel.

Ik moest aan de film Nel denken die zei:’Jullie bouwen grote torenflats en maken grote machines maar jullie zien elkaar niet, kijken naar zien niet’. Ik besef dat ik ook niet zoveel zie en dat ik in m’n droom gespiegeld word en over echtheid gesproken, ik probeer zo authentiek mogelijk te zijn en durf anders te zijn en me toch verbonden te voelen. Ik wil inderdaad graag dat anderen me zien en dat velen inderdaad geen ogen hebben Khalil Gibran zei:’Waarom hebben we medelijden met de blinden van oog en niet met de blinden van hart’.

Ik besef dat ik me er niet mee had moeten bemoeien(don’t interfere zeggen de Amerikanen), ik had Karel z’n zonnebril en helm moeten laten zitten en hem accepteren zoals hij is, zoals ik dat bij mezelf ook mag doen.

Vermijd mensen die…(3)

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-Do not accept who you are but you want to change and 'improve' their image

-force you to live according to their rules, norms and values

-have fun and laugh at the misfortunes of others

-find themselves 'good' and the other and the world's poor(Nietzsche zei:'You hat for the "good" will be flying the most toxic compound stabbing')

-parasiteren,hit and run nothing rendering, but only want to capture

-say what you think, feeling and doing

-too hard or too soft talk, Your tight(pinch) or give limp handshake

-brag about their achievements and merits

-keeping an account of what they have done for you and you always rub under the nose

-do not respect your boundaries and your last attack and say that they only want the best for you(if they can know what that is)

-blackmail and threaten the friendship to say if you do not do what they want

-be mad at you if you do not agree with them

-You only call when they need you or anything you need, only want to capture here

-You never thank you for your help and service and this for granted

-say you unhappy them, making etc(what they can do only itself)

Veel mensen durven niet gelukkig te zijn..

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Arthur

That said, my friend Arthur to me, who has come out of depression and was unhappy because he was not himself, but adapted itself to others, So it was codependent. A therapist asked him:"What would you be without your problems?"Arthur knew no answer and thought at that moment later, he would be nothing without its problems, would disappear, it would be his death, he was so familiar with it, problems had become its identity. Then he saw the ridiculousness of e.e.a. and came to understand.

We cling to the known and trusted, even if that afflicts us. A good example of a child who was taken away by the child with her mother hit her and abused, Child vehemently protested and reached out to the mother. Many of us are like that child and seek the familiar misery again, the tragedy. I think it's one of the reasons for the success of GTST, that's all drama and you think it's not that bad to you if you see that.

My friend Arthur has now realized at the age of 25 that he can be there for who he is and does not have to cling to problems. A friar of the abbey the Slangenburg said it very nicely on the clinging, he said:"Look Henny the people are doing this" and then he clenched his fists then he said "but then you can't catch, You should do this' and then he took his hands a bowl(see picture), a wise lesson from this man in letting go and surrender in Your will be done, without being fatalistic.

so you can catch

Maybe you know of a survey among the Dutch population to happiness. I believe that 75% said they were happy and I say that they lie, it's the same as if you ask how are you, Most say than good, and lying, and if you then ask how is it real with you, you hear the true story, in the study is not requested and the results are not valid.

I walked with Leon through the city and then he told me:

” Look at the people Henny, they have beautiful polished shoes, beautiful clothes and bags full of groceries and now look at those faces!“
there indeed knocked nothing, all unhappy and tormented faces I saw, the misery shone on it.

It takes courage to sensitize your shadow sides so you will master and no power over your exercise, as long as they remain unaware they control you without you know it, you can not have mastery over things you do not know and you are not aware of.

Rumi zei:'' Who in itself no defects discovered is his own enemy "and many others with him said similar things see on my site under the item codependency the topic of your own enemy '