7 fasen om het Innerlijke kind te bereiken

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Phase,,it,It begins with the realization that there is an Inner child in you and that you have put in a basement to be no more hurt and that it is love and attention deficit and you will sabotage,,nl,This phase involves your willingness to discover the inner child and want to know,,nl,You can lure the child to a specific question such as whether it wants an ice cream,,nl,or pick up a pastry or chocolate and then as a child something to enjoy and so begin to make contact with your inner child will be suspicious at first and waiting,,nl,you have to provoke the tent at this stage,,nl 1:

Het begint met de bewustwording dat er een Innerlijk kind in je is en dat je dat in een kelder hebt gestopt om niet meer gekwetst te worden en dat het dus aandacht en liefde tekort komt en je dus saboteert. In deze fase gaat het om je bereidheid om het Innerlijke kind te ontdekken en willen leren kennen

Phase,,it,It begins with the realization that there is an Inner child in you and that you have put in a basement to be no more hurt and that it is love and attention deficit and you will sabotage,,nl,This phase involves your willingness to discover the inner child and want to know,,nl,You can lure the child to a specific question such as whether it wants an ice cream,,nl,or pick up a pastry or chocolate and then as a child something to enjoy and so begin to make contact with your inner child will be suspicious at first and waiting,,nl,you have to provoke the tent at this stage,,nl 2:

Je kunt het kind lokken met een gerichte vraag bijvoorbeeld of het een ijsje wil, of een gebakje of chocolade en dat dan halen en als kind opsmikkelen en zo begin je contact te maken met je innerlijke kind dat in het begin wantrouwend zal zijn en afwachtend, je moet het in deze fase uit de tent lokken

Phase,,it,It begins with the realization that there is an Inner child in you and that you have put in a basement to be no more hurt and that it is love and attention deficit and you will sabotage,,nl,This phase involves your willingness to discover the inner child and want to know,,nl,You can lure the child to a specific question such as whether it wants an ice cream,,nl,or pick up a pastry or chocolate and then as a child something to enjoy and so begin to make contact with your inner child will be suspicious at first and waiting,,nl,you have to provoke the tent at this stage,,nl 3:

Write a short letter to your inner child with your dominant hand and then answer on behalf of the inner child by writing with your non-dominant hand,,nl,This forms the first exchange of ideas,,nl,overcome any fear or trepidation that you experience,,nl,Be honest to yourself,,nl,This is the voice dialogue phase in which you enter into a dialogue with your inner child based on the phases,,nl,t / m,,es,You can ask the child questions by writing back with your dominant hand,,nl,questions can be,,nl,are you afraid,,nl,What would you like me,,nl,What did you not see and hear,,nl,how old are you,,nl,I am able to win trust,,nl,zo ja,,ja,What do I have to do for that,,nl,what can you do for me,,nl,Your answer then as the inner child by writing with your non-dominant hand,,nl, dit vormt de eerste gedachtenuitwisseling, overwin eventuele angst of schroom die je ervaart, wees eerlijk naar jezelf.

Phase,,it,It begins with the realization that there is an Inner child in you and that you have put in a basement to be no more hurt and that it is love and attention deficit and you will sabotage,,nl,This phase involves your willingness to discover the inner child and want to know,,nl,You can lure the child to a specific question such as whether it wants an ice cream,,nl,or pick up a pastry or chocolate and then as a child something to enjoy and so begin to make contact with your inner child will be suspicious at first and waiting,,nl,you have to provoke the tent at this stage,,nl 4:

Dit is de voice dialogue fase waarin je de dialoog met je innerlijke kind aangaat op basis van de fasen 1 t/m 3. Je kunt het kind vragen stellen door weer te schrijven met je dominante hand, vragen kunnen zijn:

-ben je bang?

-wat zou je graag van me willen?

-wat wilde je niet zien en horen?

-hoe oud ben je?

-kan ik je vertrouwen weer winnen?

-zo ja, wat moet ik daarvoor doen?

-wat kun je voor me betekenen?

-etc.

Je antwoord dan weer als het innerlijke kind door te schrijven met je niet-dominante hand. You can put two chairs facing each other a seat for the big one for you and your inner child and ever changing place and record the dialogue on a voice recorder,,nl,talk if you answer if the inner child is also a child-voice,,nl,you live in,,nl,have empathy,,nl,This is the fully admit and integrate your inner child,,nl,you recognize it and you love it and are loving,,nl,custodial parent for your inner child,,nl,you have both a father and mother and also sets limits if the child too demanding and unreasonable,,nl,The adult in your care leave for mothers and fathers who are loving and caring,,nl,appreciative,,af,accepterend,,en,correcting,,nl,inspirational,,nl,In my case,,nl,Riemke,,en,Elly,,vi,Gerrit,,en,Geert,,en, praat als je antwoord als het innerlijke kind ook met een kind-stem, leef je in, heb empathie.

Phase,,it,It begins with the realization that there is an Inner child in you and that you have put in a basement to be no more hurt and that it is love and attention deficit and you will sabotage,,nl,This phase involves your willingness to discover the inner child and want to know,,nl,You can lure the child to a specific question such as whether it wants an ice cream,,nl,or pick up a pastry or chocolate and then as a child something to enjoy and so begin to make contact with your inner child will be suspicious at first and waiting,,nl,you have to provoke the tent at this stage,,nl 5:

Dit is het volledig toelaten en integreren van je innerlijke kind, je erkent het en hebt het lief en bent een liefdevolle, verzorgende ouder voor je innerlijke kind, je ben er zowel een vader als moeder voor en stelt dus ook grenzen als het kind teveel eist en onredelijk is

Phase,,it,It begins with the realization that there is an Inner child in you and that you have put in a basement to be no more hurt and that it is love and attention deficit and you will sabotage,,nl,This phase involves your willingness to discover the inner child and want to know,,nl,You can lure the child to a specific question such as whether it wants an ice cream,,nl,or pick up a pastry or chocolate and then as a child something to enjoy and so begin to make contact with your inner child will be suspicious at first and waiting,,nl,you have to provoke the tent at this stage,,nl 6:

De volwassene in je laten zorgen voor vaders en moeders die liefdevol zijn en zorgzaam, waarderend, accepterend, corrigerend, inspirerend, etc. In mijn geval: Riemke, Elly, Ingeborg Bosch, Melody Beattie, John, Gerrit, Geert

Fathers and mothers should not be appointed by the Inner Child will clear again fall into the same trap of traumatic reenactment,,nl,either put it back in the old scene,,nl,traumatic experiences,,nl,The adult let you take care of grandparents and / or masters who have understanding,,nl,wise and storytellers are,,nl,Inayat Khan is an example of that for me said,,nl,"Love and wisdom go hand in hand,,nl,love where there is wisdom and vice versa "he said ..,,nl,"Understanding all do love everything,,nl,another example for me was Goethe who said,,nl,"Depending I get older I become milder,,nl,For all the mistakes I see around me, I recognize myself,,nl, ofwel het opnieuw in scene zetten van de oude, traumatische ervaringen

Phase,,it,It begins with the realization that there is an Inner child in you and that you have put in a basement to be no more hurt and that it is love and attention deficit and you will sabotage,,nl,This phase involves your willingness to discover the inner child and want to know,,nl,You can lure the child to a specific question such as whether it wants an ice cream,,nl,or pick up a pastry or chocolate and then as a child something to enjoy and so begin to make contact with your inner child will be suspicious at first and waiting,,nl,you have to provoke the tent at this stage,,nl 7:

De volwassene in je laten zorgen voor opa’s en oma’s en/of meesters die begripvol zijn, loving, wijs en storytellers zijn. Inayat Khan is daar voor mij een voorbeeld van die zei: ‘Liefde en wijsheid gaan hand in hand: waar liefde is daar is ook wijsheid en omgekeerd’..Hij zei ook: ‘Alles begrijpen doet alles liefhebben, een ander voorbeeld voor mij is Goethe die zei: ‘Al naar gelang ik ouder word word ik milder, want alle fouten die ik om me heen zie herken ik van mezelf, Charles was also a grandfather to me who wished me a lot of inspiration and named young friend,,nl,Avalokitesvara are some other grandfathers and masters,,nl,Maya Angelou is for me a loving and wise grandmother,,nl,Conclusion,,nl,By integrating your inner child and you have to be fully aware of and will have you no longer sabotage the sweet and you'll go on wings,,nl,everything will be fine unless your other subpersonalities neglected and left late Also that can still sabotage,,nl,there you can do the same work with it as with your inner child,,nl,"The Inner Child,,nl,inner-child Archives,,nl, Lao tse, Buddha, Jesus, Osho, Avalokitesvara zijn nog wat andere opa’s en meesters, Maya Angelou is voor mij een liefdevolle en wijze oma.

Conclusie:

Door je innerlijke kind te integreren en je er volledig bewust van te worden en het lief te hebben zal het je niet langer saboteren en je zul op vleugels gaan, alles zal goed gaan tenzij je andere subpersonen veronachtzaamd en links laat liggen ook die kunnen je nog saboteren….daar kun je hetzelfde werk mee doen als met je innerlijke kind….

Bron: Boek: ‘Het Innerlijke Kind’ – Henny Bos (verschijnt medio 2016 Book published by Bent)

Hoe win je het vertrouwen van je innerlijke kind?

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-1-a- Allereerst is het belangrijk dat je je excuses aanbiedt voor het feit dat je je innerlijke kind zo lang hebt verwaarloosd en genegeerd, schrijf dat op met je dominante hand aan je innerlijke kind en vertel het dat je voor hem/haar zult zorgen en het lief zult hebben. Then answer on behalf of the inner child by writing what the child wants to say with your non-dominant hand..

-1-b- Express that you understand the distrust of your inner child and that it is shy and wary, say that you would have that feeling in his / her case and that from now on it will be different and better that you want to gain his / her trust, write that with your dominant hand and keep going until your inner child writes that it now trusts you again, and you always immerse yourself in the world of your inner child

-2- Make it clear that your inner child can ignore the harmful and burdensome rules of his / her parents and that you will make sure that the child is not punished or abandoned for what the child is afraid of, say that you are stronger than his / her parents and will take care of him / her and not abandon him / her..

-3- State what you have and that you are now independent, call your house, your car, bank account with debit card, credit card, money to buy candy and toys, that you can operate the TV yourself and have a radio and a computer, laptop, ipad, iphone, etc., that you can possibly take a pet, that you take responsibility for your own life, that you can do whatever you want. This will impress your inner child and build confidence.

-4- Indicate that you are connected to the Higher Power, your Higher Self, that you are safe and can count on divine blessing, help and support and that you put your inner child in that blessing etc.. let them share

-5- Tell your inner child that as a nurturing and loving parent you now want to look at history with him with accepting and loving eyes, that you see that everything served to bring you where you are now and that you have developed resilience through the difficulties and that you do not turn to resentment, but in gratitude, that you cannot change history, but the way you look at it…

-6- Tell your inner child that you will meet his needs and wants if it is good for growth and development, that you also learn that not everything is allowed and that you set limits. If your inner child wants to play, you give it space and you play. I play on singing bowls, indianentrommels, by kalimba, etc. and the child likes that. Painted again recently, that is also something of the inner child, so listen to what the child asks and says to you

Bron: Boek: "The Inner Child’ – Henny Bos (verschijnt medio 2016 Book published by Bent)

Hoe blind kunnen we zijn?!

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Gibran says:'Why do we pity the blind in eye and not the blind in heart??’

De Bijbel zegt:’We zien wel de splinter in het oog van de ander maar niet de balk in ons eigen oog’. We are blind to that.

We tend not to want to see our own shadow sides and to project it onto the other. Everything that annoys and irritates you in the other are aspects of yourself that you are still blind to, that you don't want to see yet.

The master spoke in general terms of the wretched condition of a disciple, without mentioning his name. When the master had finished speaking, the disciple said::"I'm so glad you're not talking about me, for the man you describe is in serious condition.”. Ze slecht zien we onszelf.

A codependent man who had read all my codependency brochures saw only the missing periods and commas. He was completely blind to his own codependency, that he might have come across in the brochures. I then asked him what else he noticed and then he mentioned some spelling mistakes. So he had paid attention to the mistakes and missed the gold. When you look for stones you are blind to the diamonds that come your way.

I was once at the Pastels bistro in Zutphen waiting for a friend, when i was an arrogant woman, who spoke in an affected way, with a potato in the throat, with a councilor. Ze schepte op over haar vaardigheden en wilde graag in de kunstcommissie. The alderman was clearly fed up with the woman and then the woman said:’ That Karel is such an arrogant ball, disgusting'. She didn't understand that she, when she saw Karel, looked in the mirror. She was blind to her own arrogance and had no self-reflection. She didn't understand that your surroundings are the mirror of yourself.

Een man sprak ik telefonisch en hij vertelde dat hij het zo vreselijk had gevonden dat een goed gesprek vroeger bij hem thuis abrupt werd afgebroken omdat moeder met het eten kwam en er eerst gegeten moest worden, nee dan zijn schoonvader die zei tegen zijn vrouw dat het eten wel even kon wachten als ze in gesprek waren, dat vond hij pas klasse tot mijn verwondering zei hij toen: ‘Ik moet dit gesprek stoppen want mijn vrouw komt met het eten’, hoe blind hij wel niet was voor zijn eigen fouten hij deed precies hetzelfde als vroeger bij hem thuis waar hij zo’n hekel aan had!!!

Een kennis van me die graag advocaat van de duivel speelt en zijn kennis graag etaleert, ergerde zich aan het gedrag van een vrouw die advocaat van de duivel speelde en haar kennis etaleerde, hij had niet in de gaten dat hij in de spiegel keek en zijn eigen gedrag zag!!

Ik vertelde per telefoon aan een vriend dat ik het had uitgemaakt met mijn vriendin, in plaats van mij te troosten en bemoedigen begon hij over zichzelf te praten, ik dacht laat ik hem niet onderbreken en kijken hoe lang hij dat volhoudt, ruim een uur deed hij erover zo vol was hij van zichzelf, hij vertelde dat hij de vriendschap met een vriend had verbroken omdat die vriend teveel over zichzelf praatte!!!!….

Most people see themselves as a human with spiritual experiences where in reality we are spiritual beings with a human experience. When you look at yourself like this you wake up and you see.

In the song Amazing Grace they sing:’Once I was blind but now I see’, don't say that about yourself too soon. Goethe gods:"If we have no notion of the whole, we do not realize how fragmentary our knowledge and perception is". It is the story of the four blind men who have to describe an elephant. The first takes a paw and says:"The elephant that's like a tree trunk", the second takes the trunk and says:’Nee, the elephant is like a big snake'. De derde pakt een oor en zegt:’Nee, the elephant is like a big leaf", the fourth finally grabs the tail and says:’De olifant is net een touw’. Ze hebben allemaal gelijk, but don't realize they only see a part. Aren't we all like those four blind people?. You are what you see.

Many people adopt an idealized self-image in order to feel 'good', that seems to help, maar in werkelijkheid werkt het tegen je, because you are then blind to your real self and if you already see something of your real self you can stand the by your idealized self even less.

We are blind and deaf to what the wise say. Schopenhauer said it very nicely when he said:"The wise have always said the same thing, age after age, and men have always said the same thing, age after age.", namely done the opposite '. That's tragicomic. What did the wise say then??. Love yourself and then you also love the other and know yourself. The Oracle of Delphi also said, "Know thyself". And what do we do?. We don't know ourselves and let ourselves be guided(lijden) by fear the opposite of love. Fear of falling short, afgewezen te worden, not getting any recognition, not to get love, etc. And fear attracts the dreaded, so go for it!.

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Donker en licht

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I knew a man I'll call Charles. Charles lived in dark country and that fascinated me. Hij had een negatief wereldbeeld en besefte niet dat z’n beeld van de wereld een spiegel was van hoe het met hemzelf was. I spoke to him again and he said to me,: "You speak beautiful and loving words but it's too light for me it dazzles me '

Jung zei: "We are not illuminated by proposing our light figures but be aware by us from our dark side '…En dat is iets waar de meesten van ons niet aan willen en voor terugschrikken, they fight against the dark and do not realize that it makes it stronger. Fighting the dark is counterproductive and does not help, you must turn on the light of your consciousness.

A man just sang on the radio: "It has never been so dark if it will be light again ', Also notable is that I Siem which daily sends me a text today received the text: "To meet me you must go through the dark .."

Prisoners held for decades in the dark were freed and were, like Charles, blinded by the light and wanted to return to their prison, they were accustomed, and that goes for many of us, We are so accustomed to the dark that we have become afraid of the light.

Each showcasing its own dark shadow. A man wanted to escape his shadow and ran faster and faster, but the shadow kept him easily at, he ran harder and harder until he fell down dead. If he had chosen to have been resolved to stand in the shade was his problem

A day consists of a day and a night of light and dark it is not either / or but both / and that's the reality. Someone can still be such a shining example if he has a dark side and a person can be so bad if he has a slight, bright side. Inayat Khan also pointed out that in order to be able to see the good and bad and bad is good. The yin / yang symbol is clearly displayed.

We can appreciate the light only when it is dark. If someone is blind he wants back into the light in his eyes and he regretted that he had not previously appreciated and was grateful for it.

The darkness is only the absence of light. You can only turn the lights on and take off and many people forget to do it in their lives, Like Charles, they live than in deep country and complain that off so that instead of self-responsibility for their lives and take themselves lightly.

A man was in the dark from a distance 5 kilometers to a village. He saw nothing and asked for a way to help., The sage gave him a lamp two meters before the man uitscheen. "But two meters," said the man "I need 5 kilometer walk, it is much too little light '. The sage said: "The light will always be two meters in front of you and go with you and that's enough". You have very little light to continue the dark. The dark is unconscious and ignorant that is many times bigger than the conscious. You really just a little consciousness to travel through the unconscious just as the man with the lamp

Er zijn goedbedoelende mensen die zich lichtwerkers noemen en dus voor één pool van de dualiteit kiezen en het donker afwijzen en dus een essentieel deel van zichzelf en de ander afwijzen en willen veranderen, alsof de nacht en het donker niet deugen, ze aanvaarden de heelheid niet en verzoenen het donker niet met het licht…het zijn vaak wereldverbeteraars die denken dat ze niet aan zichzelf hoeven te werken…

Als je alleen je lichte kant laat zien en aandacht geeft zal je partner onbewust de donkere kant uitspelen en zul je hem willen veranderen en niet beseffen dat hij je verdrongen donkere kant in beeld brengt, je partner is de spiegel van jezelf, ja zelfs je hele omgeving is de spiegel van jezelf

Here are some quotes about darkness and light

When it gets dark, do you often light to pass – Henny Bos

Jung zei: "We are not illuminated by proposing our light statures, but we are aware of our dark side '

My keyboard is now backlit, Now I nog..Henny Forest

Fighting against the darkness does not help, you have to put in only the light…Henny Bos

"I understood what was only slightly, when it was turned off by you 'sings Karin Boemen

Those who do not perceive the darkness will never find the light. – H.Th. Buckle

The truth dazzles, as well as the light. The lie, however, is a beautiful twilight that does good come out each object. – Albert Camus

Where much light is falling deep shade. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

There is no change from darkness to light, from standstill to movement, unemotional. – Carl Gustav Jung

Black is black and light full color – Henny Bos

The light does never before dark, maar het donker wijkt altijd voor het licht – Comenius

 

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