Codependentie

Codependentie:

-dependentie(verslavingen, gewoonten, ego, subpersonen, denken)

-counterdependentie(subpersonen, rebel, non-conformist, solist)

-independentie(onafhankelijkheid, vrijheid, zelfstandigheid)

-intradependentie(subpersonen, dramadriehoek, Innerlijk kind)

-interdependentie(bewustwording, geluk & levenskunst, spiritualiteit)

Speerpunten:

-codependentie

-bewustwording

-subpersonen

-innerlijke kind

-geluk & levenskunst

-dramadriehoek

-communicatie

-interdependentie

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meld je via de link aan voor het codependentie-netwerk het is gratis

Boek: ‘Over de waarde van onze fouten’

In maart komt mijn boek ‘Over de waarde van onze fouten’ uit, met veel informatie over de zinvolheid van fouten en dat je ze moet zien als feed-back en leermomenten en mag verwelkomen ipv afwijzen en wegstoppen. The book costs 15 euro, als je nu bestelt betaal ik de verzendkosten

Recommendations and tips

In mijn leven heb ik veel aanbevelingen en tips ontvangen van wijze mensen en uit boeken en n.a.v. trainingen en cursussen, ik wil die graag me je delen. Een leerling zei ooit tegen zijn meester: ‘Hoe kan ik u bedanken voor alles wat ik van u heb geleerd?’. De meester antwoordde: ‘Door het weer door te geven’, bij deze:

-geef geen reactie maar een respons vanuit je hart

-geef geen advies maar informatie

-vraag om eerlijke feed back en verdedig niet uit maar luister

-zie kritiek als een vorm van gratis advies

-niets menselijks is je vreemd dus projecteer je schaduw niet op anderen

-stimuleer, motiveer, enthousiasmeer, inspireer en bemoedig anderen

-have faith in the successful outcome

-ga ervan uit dat niets voor niets is, alles heeft een betekenis

-if you can't love something about someone then learn from it and you will always be a winner

-de grootste winst ligt in de overgave

-vergeet niet te lachen ook om jezelf

-laat de ander je waarde niet bepalen, doe dat zelf

-besef dat je maar weinig weet en onderzoek alles en behoud het goede

-besef dat je bewustzijn oneindig is, je hebt geen bewustzijn, bewustzijn heeft jou

-je bent volmaakt onvolmaakt, wees dus geen perfectionist

-afzien van expressie leidt tot depressie

-vraag alleen experts om advies niet aan Jan met de pet die denkt het weten te hebben

-wees liever heel dan goed

-zie je crisis als een goede kans op een verandering ten goede

-vernieuw en innoveer en neem initiatief en laat het oude los om plaats te maken voor het nieuwe

-alles wat je in de ander irriteert of waar je je aan ergert is een aspect van jezelf dat je nog niet wilt zien.

-als iemand je beledigt weet dan dat hij of zij alleen het beeld dat hij of zij van jou heeft beledigd en dat ben jij niet voel je dus niet aangesproken

-laat je ego niet de baas over je spelen maar maak hem tot je dienaar

-alles wat je verdringt en wegduwt zal aan je gespiegeld worden door je omgeving of anderen en speelt de baas over je

-neem je projecties terug en oordeel niet

-als je de onvolkomenheid in de ander ziet denk dan eerst aan je eigen onvolkomenheid

-je kunt de ander niet veranderen alleen jezelf

-geef vaker een compliment en toon waardering

-denk aan de formule THINK dat een acroniem is van Is it True-Helpful-Inspiring-Necessary-Kind wat je zegt en doet

-luister meer en actief, je hebt 2 oren en één mond dus luister twee keer zoveel

-oordeel minder en aanvaard meer behalve het onacceptabele zeg daar wat van

-bewaak je grenzen en maak ze niet te laag en niet te hoog, bewandel de gulden middenweg

-als het informatie voor je is is het goed als je er door beroerd wordt en van je stuk raakt is er oude pijn die geraakt wordt en die geheeld mag worden

-meen wat je zegt en zeg wat je meent

-alles waar je je niet bewust van bent heerst over jou, you can not have mastery over things you do not know and you are not aware of, werk dus aan bewustwording

-je omgeving is de spiegel van jezelf, houdt daar rekening mee als je weer eens oordeelt want je oordeelt over jezelf.

-leer je subpersonen kennen om de baas over ze te kunnen worden zolang je ze nog niet kent spelen ze de baas over jou zonder dat je je daarvan bewust bent ,dan mislukken dingen en je weet niet waarom, dan saboteerden subpersonen die niet mee mochten doen

Erger jij je aan anderen?

If you get annoyed at others you might repressed shadow side of yourself and against aspects of yourself that you do not want to recognize and thus frustrate you and sabotage, knowing more? Bel: 0314 – 34 38 21 of mail: hennybos@xs4all.nl with your question or request

How do we hold onto the old!

I once spoke with Friar Co Abbey Slangenburg in Doetinchem. He clenched his fists and said,: "Look Henny, the people doing this: they cling to the familiar '. Then he said,: "But if you can not catch, You should do this' and he makes cupped his hands, it was a lesson for me.

After my crisis had caused a huge transformation I reappeared at my work and said a colleague: "So Henny, again the old?!’. I then said,: "No, and I will also never be, I am now the new '. He shrugged and knew nothing of it he wanted everything as it left off…

De Bijbel zegt: "Make me a picture!’, and we do not make it different from each other fixed images, that we do not wish to alter or adjust. Nietzsche pointed to it when he said: "Nothing is taken you so much blame than to have to change his image of you are '.

One study asked people to negative, damaging information about a known politician to read. Their attitude towards this politician was measured before and after they had read the information., After reading, they were negative about this politician that they were neutral or even positive for the time. When she was told that the information was a mistake, it was not about the politician but was fabricated. The attitude of the people towards the politician was measured again after this new information and it turned out that the people maintained their opinion and were still negative about the politician.

We may be influenced by ideas that are wrong, are misleading and imagined and our beliefs remain the same even if it is demonstrated that they are incorrect and wrong(!!).

Many people cling to the familiar, because it gives them a sense of security, even if that old torments them. Vernon Howard zei: "There is a fine new world, but the old life does not even show the interest to investigate the even!’.

We are far from the old, Trusted leave is evident from a statement by Lao Tse 500 BC, he said: Plan your entire day full and there is no chance of life ', it is still very topical nothing has changed everything remained the same only now we have a new toy cars, airplanes and computers. The French say: 'The story repeats itself', or history repeats itself and Freud called the repetition compulsion.

Edward de Bono Lateral Thinking I learned, that's from the old, set patterns and steps free and creative thinking, He also said that people tend to accommodate new information into old brain patterns and so it goes beyond them to new. Through its innovative approach clears the Bono of the Olympic Games also make a commercial success and were invented many new things.

The fear of change is very big it is often said: Any change is still no improvement, and be sure to remember that any improvement or a change!.

Many people still do the same thing and expect different than, better results, that's very foolish behavior that will only lead to great disappointments.

A woman with whom I marched for a while asked me how her future would look like. I said I do not normally do to grsproken predictions, but made an exception in her case because it would be her future was so obvious how namely: "More of the same!’. She took namely absolutely no new information and insights…

The saying: "The apple does not fall far from the tree 'beats, precisely because we imitate the behavior of our parents and continue to repeat for the rest of our lives, Americans call this reenactment. The boys marry a girl in their mother seems though he hated his mother that familiar, and the girl marries a boy who looks like her father.

There was a child who was abused and mistreated by her mother, The child took the girl there and the girl crying sticking hands out to her mother that she wanted to stay with the old familiar even though it was a hell.

Shop Hauer zei: 'The sages have always said the same century after century and century after century the people have always the same, namely done the opposite, "and so it is. The point being on self-knowledge, being creative, renew, etc and one does the opposite.

I once heard the saying that old people with their backs to the future and with their faces to the past.

Peter John, I heard that you can only find truth and see if you are free and are not tied to the old. Nietzsche zei: ‘Hoeveel waarheid kan een mens verdragen, how much truth he ventures?!"We prefer to live in the old illusion than the ever renewing truth and reality, this uncertainty we can we not think of at least.

Have you ever experienced a time when not passed?!. Let the past go and process it and do not let it run your life, Past, the old has the slipstream and has no driving force.

Often it takes a crisis to awaken people and to repent and change, the Chinese character for crisis is the same as the sign of change and opportunity. I also had a hard head and did much of the same as almost everyone around me so it was not me, it was normal. When I did not know that he who is completely normal is not quite normal. Maslow called normal psychopathology of the average man. Imagine no longer satisfied with your 6-or you 7 For your quality of life make it a 9 of 10 and dare to change and improve.

I had a telephone conversation with a man who told me he liked it so terrible that formerly was demolished a conversation at his home because mom with the food arrived and had to be eaten, he praised his father as he was with this man put the call in conversation and finished and told his wife that the food could wait, and now comes the: Then he told me that he had to break off our conversation because his wife came with the food!!, he was back to the old familiar from earlier home where he had such a hehel(-)

Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself – Rumi

Also willing to change yourself and be your Self with more quality of life bell: 0314-343821 of mail: hennybos@xs4all.nl