Archive for year: 2015

Hoe blind kunnen we zijn?!

12 March 2015/by Henny Bos

Gibran says:'Why do we pity the blind in eye and not the blind in heart??’

De Bijbel zegt:’We zien wel de splinter in het oog van de ander maar niet de balk in ons eigen oog’. We are blind to that.

We tend not to want to see our own shadow sides and to project it onto the other. Everything that annoys and irritates you in the other are aspects of yourself that you are still blind to, that you don't want to see yet.

The master spoke in general terms of the wretched condition of a disciple, without mentioning his name. When the master had finished speaking, the disciple said::"I'm so glad you're not talking about me, for the man you describe is in serious condition.”. Ze slecht zien we onszelf.

A codependent man who had read all my codependency brochures saw only the missing periods and commas. He was completely blind to his own codependency, that he might have come across in the brochures. I then asked him what else he noticed and then he mentioned some spelling mistakes. So he had paid attention to the mistakes and missed the gold. When you look for stones you are blind to the diamonds that come your way.

I was once at the Pastels bistro in Zutphen waiting for a friend, when i was an arrogant woman, who spoke in an affected way, with a potato in the throat, with a councilor. Ze schepte op over haar vaardigheden en wilde graag in de kunstcommissie. The alderman was clearly fed up with the woman and then the woman said:’ That Karel is such an arrogant ball, disgusting'. She didn't understand that she, when she saw Karel, looked in the mirror. She was blind to her own arrogance and had no self-reflection. She didn't understand that your surroundings are the mirror of yourself.

Een man sprak ik telefonisch en hij vertelde dat hij het zo vreselijk had gevonden dat een goed gesprek vroeger bij hem thuis abrupt werd afgebroken omdat moeder met het eten kwam en er eerst gegeten moest worden, nee dan zijn schoonvader die zei tegen zijn vrouw dat het eten wel even kon wachten als ze in gesprek waren, dat vond hij pas klasse tot mijn verwondering zei hij toen: ‘Ik moet dit gesprek stoppen want mijn vrouw komt met het eten’, hoe blind hij wel niet was voor zijn eigen fouten hij deed precies hetzelfde als vroeger bij hem thuis waar hij zo’n hekel aan had!!!

Een kennis van me die graag advocaat van de duivel speelt en zijn kennis graag etaleert, ergerde zich aan het gedrag van een vrouw die advocaat van de duivel speelde en haar kennis etaleerde, hij had niet in de gaten dat hij in de spiegel keek en zijn eigen gedrag zag!!

Ik vertelde per telefoon aan een vriend dat ik het had uitgemaakt met mijn vriendin, in plaats van mij te troosten en bemoedigen begon hij over zichzelf te praten, ik dacht laat ik hem niet onderbreken en kijken hoe lang hij dat volhoudt, ruim een uur deed hij erover zo vol was hij van zichzelf, hij vertelde dat hij de vriendschap met een vriend had verbroken omdat die vriend teveel over zichzelf praatte!!!!….

Most people see themselves as a human with spiritual experiences where in reality we are spiritual beings with a human experience. When you look at yourself like this you wake up and you see.

In the song Amazing Grace they sing:’Once I was blind but now I see’, don't say that about yourself too soon. Goethe gods:"If we have no notion of the whole, we do not realize how fragmentary our knowledge and perception is". It is the story of the four blind men who have to describe an elephant. The first takes a paw and says:"The elephant that's like a tree trunk", the second takes the trunk and says:’Nee, the elephant is like a big snake'. De derde pakt een oor en zegt:’Nee, the elephant is like a big leaf", the fourth finally grabs the tail and says:’De olifant is net een touw’. Ze hebben allemaal gelijk, but don't realize they only see a part. Aren't we all like those four blind people?. You are what you see.

Many people adopt an idealized self-image in order to feel 'good', that seems to help, maar in werkelijkheid werkt het tegen je, because you are then blind to your real self and if you already see something of your real self you can stand the by your idealized self even less.

We are blind and deaf to what the wise say. Schopenhauer said it very nicely when he said:"The wise have always said the same thing, age after age, and men have always said the same thing, age after age.", namely done the opposite '. That's tragicomic. What did the wise say then??. Love yourself and then you also love the other and know yourself. The Oracle of Delphi also said, "Know thyself". And what do we do?. We don't know ourselves and let ourselves be guided(lijden) by fear the opposite of love. Fear of falling short, afgewezen te worden, not getting any recognition, not to get love, etc. And fear attracts the dreaded, so go for it!.

Ook weten waar je blind voor bent, wat je nog niet wilt zien: bel 0314 – 343821 of mail: hennybos@xs4all.nl

Donker en licht

10 March 2015/by Henny Bos

I knew a man I'll call Charles. Charles lived in dark country and that fascinated me. Hij had een negatief wereldbeeld en besefte niet dat z’n beeld van de wereld een spiegel was van hoe het met hemzelf was. I spoke to him again and he said to me,: "You speak beautiful and loving words but it's too light for me it dazzles me '

Jung zei: "We are not illuminated by proposing our light figures but be aware by us from our dark side '…En dat is iets waar de meesten van ons niet aan willen en voor terugschrikken, they fight against the dark and do not realize that it makes it stronger. Fighting the dark is counterproductive and does not help, you must turn on the light of your consciousness.

A man just sang on the radio: "It has never been so dark if it will be light again ', Also notable is that I Siem which daily sends me a text today received the text: "To meet me you must go through the dark .."

Prisoners held for decades in the dark were freed and were, like Charles, blinded by the light and wanted to return to their prison, they were accustomed, and that goes for many of us, We are so accustomed to the dark that we have become afraid of the light.

Each showcasing its own dark shadow. A man wanted to escape his shadow and ran faster and faster, but the shadow kept him easily at, he ran harder and harder until he fell down dead. If he had chosen to have been resolved to stand in the shade was his problem

A day consists of a day and a night of light and dark it is not either / or but both / and that's the reality. Someone can still be such a shining example if he has a dark side and a person can be so bad if he has a slight, bright side. Inayat Khan also pointed out that in order to be able to see the good and bad and bad is good. The yin / yang symbol is clearly displayed.

We can appreciate the light only when it is dark. If someone is blind he wants back into the light in his eyes and he regretted that he had not previously appreciated and was grateful for it.

The darkness is only the absence of light. You can only turn the lights on and take off and many people forget to do it in their lives, Like Charles, they live than in deep country and complain that off so that instead of self-responsibility for their lives and take themselves lightly.

A man was in the dark from a distance 5 kilometers to a village. He saw nothing and asked for a way to help., The sage gave him a lamp two meters before the man uitscheen. "But two meters," said the man "I need 5 kilometer walk, it is much too little light '. The sage said: "The light will always be two meters in front of you and go with you and that's enough". You have very little light to continue the dark. The dark is unconscious and ignorant that is many times bigger than the conscious. You really just a little consciousness to travel through the unconscious just as the man with the lamp

Er zijn goedbedoelende mensen die zich lichtwerkers noemen en dus voor één pool van de dualiteit kiezen en het donker afwijzen en dus een essentieel deel van zichzelf en de ander afwijzen en willen veranderen, alsof de nacht en het donker niet deugen, ze aanvaarden de heelheid niet en verzoenen het donker niet met het licht…het zijn vaak wereldverbeteraars die denken dat ze niet aan zichzelf hoeven te werken…

Als je alleen je lichte kant laat zien en aandacht geeft zal je partner onbewust de donkere kant uitspelen en zul je hem willen veranderen en niet beseffen dat hij je verdrongen donkere kant in beeld brengt, je partner is de spiegel van jezelf, ja zelfs je hele omgeving is de spiegel van jezelf

Here are some quotes about darkness and light

When it gets dark, do you often light to pass – Henny Bos

Jung zei: "We are not illuminated by proposing our light statures, but we are aware of our dark side '

My keyboard is now backlit, Now I nog..Henny Forest

Fighting against the darkness does not help, you have to put in only the light…Henny Bos

"I understood what was only slightly, when it was turned off by you 'sings Karin Boemen

Those who do not perceive the darkness will never find the light. – H.Th. Buckle

The truth dazzles, as well as the light. The lie, however, is a beautiful twilight that does good come out each object. – Albert Camus

Where much light is falling deep shade. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

There is no change from darkness to light, from standstill to movement, unemotional. – Carl Gustav Jung

Black is black and light full color – Henny Bos

The light does never before dark, maar het donker wijkt altijd voor het licht – Comenius

Nieuw boek ‘Over de waarde van onze fouten’

10 March 2015/by Henny Bos

Over de waarde van onze fouten / Henny Bos
How do you learn from your mistakes instead of falling victim to them

This book is meant to overcome your fears regarding your mistakes and turn them into a creative and creative power, by recognizing that mistakes are nothing but creative learning and often lead to surprising discoveries.

Also, your shyness and guilt regarding your mistakes will disappear if you take to heart the content of this book.

Learn from my many mistakes and those of others, because you never live long enough to make all the mistakes yourself and as you learn from others' mistakes do you make not have to pay the price.

Socrates zei: "Improve yourself by reading the writings of others and you get easily what others have to do a lot of struggle for!’

Success has many fathers and failure none, Give more attention to the failure, the mistake you make the same mistake again and become wiser and happier.

2015 / ISBN 9789462037991 / Paperback / 102 pagina’s, prijs 15 euro