Elk nadeel heeft zijn voordeel

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Johan Cruijff maakte deze oude uitspraak bekend en er zit veel in. Kijk maar eens naar je nadelen, je schaduwkanten en som dan eens op wat voor voordelen die hebben.

Zo kan chaotisch zijn het voordeel hebben dat je ook spontaan en creatief bent en vindingrijk. Snel afgeleid zijn kan wijzen op openstaan voor indrukken, een open opstelling. Te ernstig zijn kan wijzen op mensen serieus nemen en niet alles weglachen wat velen doen. Kwetsbaarheid kan wijzen op een innerlijke kracht waarin je je kwetsbaar durft op te stellen en wilt laten raken, betrokken bent.

Ik heb deze oefening eens gedaan voor mijn ‘nadelen’ en schaduwkanten om te zien of er voordelen in zitten, ik kwam tot het volgende:

 

Snel oordeel——> duidelijkheid, eigen mening, discussie uitlokkend, levendigheid, te durven confronteren(caring enough to confront)

 

Koppigheid——->standvastigheid, doorzetten, niet met alle winden meewaaien, de ander moet met sterke en goede argumenten komen

 

Belerendheid——–>informatie verschaffend, delen en geven van kennis en inzichten waardoor het meer wordt.

 

Uitstellen———->genieten van het moment nu, problemen verdwijnen vaak als de tijd verstrijkt, komt tijd, komt raad

 

Gemakzucht———->relaxed, cool, kalm, wie het gemak niet zoekt is lui

 

Egoïstisch———–>de hoofdpersoon zijn in m’n eigen leven in plaats van figurant zijn, jezelf als de belangrijkste persoon zien, goed voor jezelf zorgen(en dan pas kun je het ook voor een ander)

 

Te weinig empatisch——–>geen bemoeizucht, de ander accepteren zoals hij is, z’n karma laten uitwerken

 

Steeds meer willen——->kiezen voor groei en ontwikkeling en vernieuwing/innovatie, niet op m’n lauweren rusten

 

People pleaser———>aardig zijn en doen, vriendelijkheid, gastvrijjheid, goedgeefsheid, sociaal

 

Rebels———>je eigen gang gaan en niet laten bepalen door de eisen van een (zieke) maatschappij

 

Tijdens verkooptrainingen leerden we ook al dat je van nadelen voordelen kunt maken, van de hoge prijs de kwaliteitsgarantie en dat goedkoop vaak duurkoop is, etc.

Deze oefening is goed om je nadelen te kunnen accepteren en evt.ook te transformeren. Rumi zei:’Wie in zichzelf geen gebreken erkent is zijn eigen ergste vijand’

6 you tube filmpjes over codependentie

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Per vandaag zijn er 6 korte filmpjes(4 until 8 minutes) over codependentie van me op you tube te vinden

The topics covered are:

-Questions and definitions

-How do you find your codependency

-the drama triangle

-the dysfunctional family

-helpaholics

-controle en codependentie

Dit is de link: http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL03DB6C764205B566&feature=plcp

roll pedis

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Pedis is een Indonesisch woord voor pittig. Neem een boterham en beleg hem met een plak kaas, besmeer dat met sambal oelek en strooi er djintan(komijn) over naar smaak. Dan het geheel 5 minuten in de oven opwarmen en smullen maar

core Quadrants

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Daniel Ofman invented the core quadrants, which are very sensible to emphasize the limitations and drawbacks of the excel anywhere. As every disadvantage has its advantage(I write more about) has every advantage and its disadvantage there go the core quadrants o.a. over.

I scored a psychological test far over the limit when it came to analytical skills. The psychologists thought there was a mistake and looked after all, knocking it proved, I was exceptionally analytical. This core quality I will elaborate in a core quadrant to give an example of how you can create your own core quadrant

 

core Quality: Analytisch vermogen

pitfall: in feeling his

Challenge: More come your feeling

Allergy: mush

The allergy is something you bother to, what repels and where you can get annoyed and then pass to the opposite behavior. My allergy is sentimentality that I call often emotional incontinence. The challenge may be entered and should not be exaggerated so you enter the allergy

It might be an idea to make your own core quadrants, it leads to more awareness

 

Finally, a Haiku about core quadrant:

See your core quadrant

The downside to your advantage

and become aware

Eén – advaita vedanta

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M’n vriendin Elly zei:"If every man one other person loves and loved one another human being and ensures everyone is ensured for the whole world." I think that a nice thought and one other that must still easy to do!

There is an old story about the time when the Buddha was enlightened. The gods told him that he had to bring his message to the people but the Buddha refused and said that the people would not understand him and would reject and deny and would even attempt to ridicule him. The gods called to mind but the Buddha continued to refuse. Then said one God:"If there's one man who is just on the threshold, and by your words and presence to enlightenment could come you'd do it for the one man?!’, which the Buddha resounding Yes said, and was going to bring his message to the people. That story has always really appealed to me. Jesus also gave priority to the individual above the masses. It's always that one, the individual that makes the difference

In Advaita Vedanta, they are also talking about one. There is only one Being that manifests itself in different ways. Advaita means non-duality, therefore duality, but one is the unity of all.

Philip Renard writes:"You reach Advaita only complete when you reach the egoless state 'Then you are one with everything. The ego sees only as separated and then it's me versus the other and thus duality.

David Frawley says in his book 'Vedanta meditation ":"The Vedantaweg is dissolve the mind in the Self which is our true nature, beyond the mind and its conditioning "Jesus did even when he said:"I and the Father are one" and that we can do the same thing he did and even more, he put himself out on a (ego) pedestal, which Christians have put him

Frawley writes:"The Vedanta sees ignorance Attn. our True Self as the cause of all our problems of life 'However, the ego wants to know nothing of his ignorance and thinks everything themselves know better, even better than the wise and the ego does the opposite of what have said always point.

Furthermore Frawley writes:"To find truth we must be without motive. That is, we must be one with the universal motive: the world to a higher consciousness and:"Real relationship is, we ourselves in all beings and all beings see in ourselves'

That is, the I(ego)phase to the We(Self)going phase.

I once read the text contained in an I Illness and Wellness is in We.

Osho said that this is a universe and not a multiverse, what we make often. Frawley says that universal religion is universal consciousness and love. Universe means one song..

You and others are really one, it is we instead of I vs. You, we are gods and that is even in the Bible:"Do you not know that thou art gods!’

Everything you do to others you do in being yourself and what you give to others you actually give yourself. Je omgeving is de spiegel van jezelf!. Everything you have given can call you truly yours.

Osho gods:"Va durability is the absence of the other, and are only( are all one, one with it all ..) is the presence of yourSelf.

I think it was Erich Fromm wrote that the greatest problem of our time is that man can not only with themselves. I think because they are not one, niet uit één stuk, No friends with themselves.

Joseph Murphy schrijft in z’n boek ‘The power of your subconscious mind’:"When you give emotionally mature no negative response to criticism, resentment, resentment and hatred of others. If you would do that would mean that you descend to their state of low mental vibration and energy, and you would become one with the negative atmosphere of the other '

English latch one the same as winning. If you are one you have indeed won, the victory over oneself is the greatest victory. Then work all sub-personality as a whole together, and you're in one piece, no more struggle between o.a. the head and the heart where Chris de Burg on singing.

I will be happy and satisfied if I can reach one person with this letter and inspire,motiveren,enthuse and encourage. If I have one heart, one soul was able to touch, you can sign up and then I will greet you warmly.

Bron: My book "Mirrors of the Soul’ (2008)