As a child of a year or 6 I found a clover 4 and from that moment on I was convinced that I would be lucky, not realizing that you were very lucky to have a clover 4 to find. I did the clover in the Bible. My mother often called me the lucky boss, because I was so lucky and that attracted even more happiness.
Even seemingly unpleasant moments and negative experiences in my life showed that there was happiness in me. In 1992 kreeg ik een crisis, a psychosis, with an admission to a psychiatric institution. I learned about that (negative) feelings. My fellow patients said: "Come on Henny, you're not sitting here for your sweaty feet, so tell me what's going on ". I was not used to that, with my fine-fine attitude, I learned that you don't hang the dirty laundry outside, and now I had to expose my buttocks and it was not easy. At first I only saw my psychosis negatively, where it later turned out to be my salvation a rebirth to consciousness and thus pure happiness.
My dismissal from my employer also turned out to be lucky. I received my letter of resignation 5 May 1998, so liberation day and it was also a liberation for me, the way to freedom to read and write and communicate about essence with friends and acquaintances instead of talking about drama.
My divorce was not so much fun, but the Americans are saying for a reason: ‘No pain, no gain’. You get through the pain. Nisargadatta said it very nicely, he said:Between the banks of pain and pleasure, the river flows, only when thoughts and feelings strand on one of the banks and do not go with the flow does all misery arise. I just wanted fun, met alle ellende van dien, then you throng (oude) pain and negative emotions with all its disastrous consequences. By feeling the pain I could transform it and choose a life of and / and instead of either / or.
My divorce also turned out to be my luck, this allowed me to develop and grow further. My wife always made negative comments about my reading habits, she disapproved of that and saw my growth as a threat and was therefore a blockade for my growth and development.
Happiness comes to the corresponding prepared mind, Robert Ogilvie said a business friend of mine and I took that to heart.
I have discovered that happiness is a by-product of awareness and self-knowledge, the more awareness, the more luck comes your way. You are then open to new experiences and information and are proactive and creative instead of reactive. Jesus also said:"Behold I make all things new '. It is the same between my partner Elly and me, on the one hand, it is very individual and familiar and at the same time it is always fresh, sparkling and new, it is never old cake, no grind, we share our happiness and then it becomes more and more…
